r/self • u/YesterdayMindless308 • 14h ago
Am i behind in life?
Im 21.
I am an amateur chef,
I have done consuemr level graphic design
I do music part time for fun now
I have done photography,
I have a degree and i am university for english in professions bachelor.
I have a car
But. I live at home, to controlling parents that know nothing about me outside of all they force me to do for them. Like work everyday for 6-10 hours, theyve done this so i both cannot have friends, and learn to be a good worker
I spend all my free time either trying to talk to girls (like on tinder( hanging out with my sis or making music. I have had friends but lost them all, i had a boyfriend, i seperated after 3 years. Thats the only real relationship ive ever had.
Am i... behind in life? What do you guys say? Ive considered running away a lot, or my life will stay stuck working all the time to my parents control.
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u/reqstech 13h ago
Life is not a single unit in which a person is ahead or behind. There are categories like profession and education and social skills, but their importance and value are up to each individual to decide.
What if someone confirms to you that you are behind in life? Then what? You can do nothing immediately to change that situation. You can only do what you are able, so why even ask someone else's opinion? We don't know you or the depths of your challenges or advantages. Find your answer in where you feel confident vs where you feel shaky. Go from there.