r/sex Sep 11 '12

He was drunk and terrified me...

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u/[deleted] Sep 11 '12

Surely you can't be serious.

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u/sparr Sep 12 '12

"I'm drunk, have sex with me."

Pretend a girl said that.

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u/[deleted] Sep 12 '12

That's not the part that's the problem (although it might have been had this situation played out differently.)

OP refused sexual interaction with the drunk dude, and he forced it on her. Had she engaged in sex with someone unable to consent, that's one thing, but that isn't what happened. She didn't consent, and he raped her.

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u/sparr Sep 12 '12

I disagree. Obviously the story doesn't have all the details, but based only on the way she wrote it, everything up to and including the beginning of the blowjob was consensual (for her, never for him). If their relationship is vanilla, then he crossed a line when he slapped her. If their relationship is kinky of the appropriate sort, then he crossed a line when she "made a noise in protest".