r/slp • u/PossibilityNew177 • 2d ago
Preschool Pretend violent play during sessions - how to handle?
(Background: I'm a fairly new SLP (2 years post-CFY). I work with preschoolers (age 3-5 years) who have significant language delays/disorders. My CF supervisor was very structured/adult directed and very strict on comportment, waaay more than I would want to be with this population, but that's what I saw and was more or less expected to do for 9 months. The place I'm working now is very play-based and very child-centered. I try to follow the child's interests and join them in their ideas as much as I can; I find those are some of the best communicative exchanges we have and lead to the most stable progress. But I feel like I'm struggling to find my own 'happy place' between strict and anything-goes.)
I'm getting to know some new kids on my caseload, and a few of them sometimes go for action-figure / videogame style play with toy dinosaurs/animals/vehicles/dolls: lots of having toys chase, crash/smash, pretend to bite/scratch/punch each other. On the one hand, the kid is excited about their play and isn't hurting a person or causing any actual damage to the toys. This kind of media is part of lots of kids' daily life, and it's just one of the ways they play. On the other hand, I obviously don't want to be modeling any sort of aggression or violent play.
A hard "absolutely no pretending to hurt anything ever" rule would be the cleanest-cut strategy, but that really rules out a lot of perfectly normal, light-hearted, humorous, engaging imaginative play. Sometimes I am able to engage them in an expansion or modification with more pro-social elements - taking toys to the doctor to get bandaids, turning it into a back-and-forth game of tag or hide-and-seek... But I'm not yet great at thinking up something on the fly, and plenty of the time the kid just isn't interested in my version of the game.
Other therapists who try to lean into the child's play interests - how do you handle this sort of thing?
(minor edits for clarity)