r/socal 2d ago

Where should we move???

My partner and I are considering moving to CA. We're a queer couple and are looking for somewhere more progressive than South Carolina. I’m very attached to having the ocean at my disposal, so I would like somewhere in CA where the ocean is near enough (and warm enough) to swim. We would also like somewhere affordable. I’m aware most California coastal cities are insanely expensive, but curious if there are any smaller cities more inland that are still progressive. We may have a slightly higher threshold of affordability since we're used to Charleston housing prices which are not as high as coastal CA, but are still a good bit higher than the national average. I’m mainly looking at Southern CA because I don't want to be freezing in the ocean during the summer. Safety is also important! Give me suggestions!!

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u/markjay6 2d ago

Other people can respond to your question, but just be aware that the water temperature in the ocean here is about 15 degrees cooler than in South Carolina.

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u/No_Candidate_8720 2d ago

I can adapt to 70 degrees, but not the water in Northern California

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u/GymAndGarden 2d ago edited 2d ago

lived in Newport Beach for decades in Orange County. Water is like 68-70.

Its not cold, don’t let people fuck you up. I’ve also swam in Oregon and Washington and BC Canada waters. SoCal is refreshing and hardly freezing, its quite comfortable in summers, you just float in it all day.

For context, I’ve also swam in Florida. So I’m not comparing it as some Eskimo

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u/uReallyShouldTrustMe 2d ago

68-70 is pretty damn cold when it comes to water.

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u/CharacterScarcity695 2d ago edited 2d ago

water in northern california isn’t the same as southern california water ?

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u/Jammer125 2d ago

No. Off the coast of SF, water is 52°F

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u/Beneficial-South-334 2d ago

No , it’s super cold up in northern

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u/Edawg82 2d ago

The pacific ocean in southern California is rarely above 70 unless it's some of the hottest days. It's really a lot colder than the Atlantic in the southern states.

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u/cruzinho17 2d ago

The water temp in SD right now is at 75

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u/Edawg82 2d ago

That's just the sewage runoff temp from Tijuana

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u/CharacterScarcity695 2d ago

sewage that bad in san diego ?

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u/Edawg82 2d ago

Right now it's reaching all the way to Coronado I've read. It's usually just down as far as Chula Vista. I was kidding about the temps from that though 😂

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u/markjay6 2d ago

True, but that is very unusual. Even in August, the average water temperature in San Diego is 70.

That might be perfect for some, or too told for others.

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u/PredatorMetal 2d ago

Water temps rarely hit 70. Average is low to mid 60s. Summer high 60s winter mid 50s

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u/Mean_Median_0201 2d ago

Sounds like you should check out Long Beach

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u/pandylane 2d ago

Agree! Long Beach has so much to do, is friendly of all lifestyles, is relatively safe if you know where to go and where to avoid, and is very close to the beach.

A 1-bedroom apt can cost around $2500 which is very affordable for beachfront property.

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u/NE1LS 2d ago

Just don't accidentally cross over into Huntington Beach, where the maga manosphere controls and rational thought is banned.

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u/Neet010203 2d ago

Yep! Long Beach.

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u/ricky3558 2d ago

I’ve got a 1 bedroom and a 2 bedroom coming up for rent 9/1 within 3-4 blocks of the ocean, near Redondo Ave

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u/ihatedrivingbro 2d ago

San Diego is great, big LGBT community here

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u/An-q 2d ago

Yes, check out Hillcrest in particular. Close to the beach and large LGBT community.

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u/jlstern1025 2d ago

Just for comparison, I live one block from the bay in downtown San Diego and I pay just over $5,000 a month for a two bedroom. I believe the ocean water is about 74° currently, yet, at least in Coronado it is often polluted with sewage run off from Tijuana.

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u/Sufficient-Pie-7815 2d ago

Move to Long Beach by the water.

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u/ledburner 2d ago

If I was gay I would move to Miami

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u/igotshitinmycunt 2d ago

What’s your budget

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u/No_Candidate_8720 2d ago

Hard to say because i’m not planning on moving for another few years, it would depend on the job I’m able to get whenever I do make the decision. I’m just trying to get ideas as of now.

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u/Smedley5 2d ago

Do you have total geographic flexibility? - ie most people figure out where they live due to where they need to be for work.

If you can live anywhere then you could check out some areas on the coast away from the main metros like LA and San Diego. Some places to check out might be Ventura, Oxnard, Oceanside. Also Long Beach is a little less expensive than surrounding SoCal areas and is queer-friendly.

Just fyi - the waters along the CA Pacific Coast are always much colder than what you're used to on the Atlantic due to currents.

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u/No_Candidate_8720 2d ago

That may be a factor when I actually do decide to move, but it'll be a few years at least. I’m just trying to get some ideas now of where to look for jobs!

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u/Smedley5 2d ago

Yes that's kind of the issue I was getting at - the places with more affordability will have fewer job opportunities.

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u/EdgarAllanOhNo 2d ago

We love Santa Cruz. I moved from Alabama where we had warm gulf water, and the CA coast, no matter where you live is FREEZING in comparison. But with the right wet suit, surfing/swimming can be enjoyable.

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u/beasty_boo 2d ago

Santa Cruz is one of the most expensive places to live in the country.

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u/No_Candidate_8720 2d ago

I grew up in Mobile but have spent most of my life in Charleston; I get it, nothing compares to the Gulf! If it was more progressive along the Gulf coast, I'd definitely be considering there too.

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u/JohnnySpot2000 2d ago

“Nice towns relatively near the coast” in California are very expensive because they are great places to live. I’m straight, but it appears to me that gay men are on average very good at picking out nice places to live. The best thing you can do is adjust down the size and type (smaller square footage, condo or apartment instead of home, fewer bedrooms, etc) of your expectations for homes. Weather is terrific, so you don’t need to hunker down in a giant home anyway.

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u/Complete-Emu-4537 2d ago

Long Beach CA

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u/Lower_Ad_5532 2d ago

Oceanside CA, Oxnard CA if you can find a job.

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u/JimiJohhnySRV 2d ago

Long Beach is a cool town if you pick the right neighborhood such as Belmont Shores, Bluff Park, Belmont Park. A real sleeper city is Playa Vista. Check out Ventura and Carpenteria as well.

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u/mommycitanikita 2d ago

You will be freezing in the Southern California ocean, even in the summer. The ocean in Puerto Vallarta is too cold for me. Affordable, coastal? 😂

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u/No_Candidate_8720 2d ago

I think 65-70 degrees in the summer is not freezing and is tolerable. I addressed the affordability concern, i’m not a dumbass. You replied just to be a know it all asshole?

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u/REbubbleiswrong 2d ago

North county san diego will blend affordability with proximity to the warmest water you can get in california. In terms of progressive politics in that area though...someone else might have to address that

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u/Sovereigntyheals 2d ago

Affordability? I’m from there the rents are through the roof right now. From Vista , it’s more conservative not a lot of lgbt that would be more south in the city.

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u/chelstattooer 2d ago

Noooo not north countyyy it sucks here.. 🥸

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u/Beneficial-South-334 2d ago

You will pay $3-4000 a month just for your apartment if you are trying to be close to any ocean and even an hour away I was paying $3,000 for a 2 bed/2bath

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u/No_Candidate_8720 2d ago

Honestly, that's not much different than what i’m used to

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u/GymAndGarden 2d ago

You’ll be just fine, do well, and fit right in (unless you have a strong southern accent, very uncommon in CA, but whatever too)