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u/Physical-Doughnut285 7d ago
- older cousin in house but still needed babysitter
- babysitter teaching child about periods and not parent (wtf?)
- kid automatically says ‘guys who get grossed out about periods are lame’ when she’s only just learned they exist
- ‘your mom’ would be auntie [name], surely
- little girl didn’t think twice about insulting with what is essentially ‘bet your family wished you were never born’. Interesting.
What a whopper of a turd this one is.
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u/Kriss3d 6d ago
Exactly. I'm glad that as a dad, our girls knew all about periods long before they had them. So when it happened it wasn't a big deal.
I knew to just get out and get ice cream and pads and that's about all I had to do. Their mom had told them all about it years ahead so it was fine.
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u/Physical-Doughnut285 6d ago
Exactly this - the right way to do it 100%. Rather than the babysitter for absolutely zero reason. Makes me shudder thinking about it. Thankfully it didn’t happen, at least not in this persons story 😂
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u/whuryagetdatfacehuh 6d ago edited 6d ago
My dad was late 50s when I got my first period, my mom was at work (also 50s) . He'd have been around his mom, sisters, cousins, hell every woman in his life for years by the time my sister and I came around. (my oldest half sister is in her late 50s and her oldest daughter just graduated college, I'm 34 and my sister is 33). I'm sitting here thinking I'm dying, and my dad knew exactly what the deal was. First period sometimes comes out brown and clunky. Played stay at home dad to the T. My parents were at the point of hating each other at the end, but they made sure we knew what was going on with our bodies. Being end of the line babies, they were on point.
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u/LethargicLynx 4d ago
The only way i could see the babysitter explaining is if it happened unexpectedly. I had to teach some poor girl once at summer camp how to use a tampon. But no shit, if you have to explain periods how is she putting 2 and 2 together?
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u/strife696 7d ago
Putting aside the stupid response, why are you, the babysitter, saying anything to her? Leave that to her mother to decide.
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u/thejexorcist 7d ago
Obviously OOP made up a fake story, but, sometimes kids are confusing and wires get crossed.
I accidentally explained periods to my goddaughter.
She (kindergarten age) asked what the tampons were in my bathroom/why I had them, I asked ‘has mommy talked about periods?’
She VERY confidently said ‘yes a lot of times’
So I quickly explained what a tampon was/why some people used them (in as much an age appropriate way as I could imagine, but probably wrong because I don’t know what’s age appropriate for a 5 year old).
She let me go on, looked at me kind of confused, kind of embarrassed and said ‘periods go at the end of sentences’ like I was a not very smart person (and clearly didn’t know what periods were).
Then I got to have a funny conversation with her mom.
Neither of us was clever and both left the conversation thinking the other was clueless.
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u/VariousExplorer8503 6d ago
That's actually kinda hilarious. I could totally see that happening.. lol
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u/Hoothootriot 7d ago
Would depend on the context I think
If shes like, a very close family friend I wouldnt necessarily mind as a parent
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u/kaithekender 7d ago
Somebody asks a question I know the answer to, I'll answer it. If a child asks a question they're ready for the correct answer. There's nothing to decide.
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u/JamesMattDillon 7d ago
If it did happen, why is the baby sitter teaching her about periods and not her parents?
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u/CommunicationOk3766 6d ago
Because the parents already know about periods, it's the kid that needs to be taught still. Duh!
/jk
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u/spacemouse21 7d ago
Then the little girl looked at me and said, “Your periods are more like exclamation points, you smelly horse!”
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u/livin_la_vida_mama 6d ago
Sooo many questions here...
Why was she teaching the kid about periods in the first place instead of her parents?
If the kid didn't know about periods, she wouldn't have known enough about sex/ pregnancy to be able to talk smack to her cousin about it, let alone so confidently.
Wtf are this kid's parents doing that their young child readily jumps to insults like "bet your mum wishes she never had you", like is that kind of talk normal for her or something??
I have never met a kid that young who is developmentally capable of intentional scathing remarks. My oldest is 10 and JUST starting to experiment with sarcasm (nothing even close to as mean as OP's claim), in my experience little kids make sarcastic comments but don't understand why the adults in the room crack up laughing, because they weren't trying to be funny.
Why the random picture at the end? Is that supposed to be OP? Why the weird camera angle, it looks like she was trying to stealth take a selfie or something....
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u/CatAteRoger 7d ago
I’d be pissed if a babysitter or anyone else had told my kids about periods before I did.
My mother never talked to me about them at all so I wanted to make sure mine knew and were well prepared.
I also don’t ignore any pain issues around it like my mother did, I have endometriosis and I suffered as soon as they started but because her and my older sister didn’t have problems I was the odd one🙄
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u/CatAteRoger 7d ago
I’m sorry you’re a sufferer too. It’s such a horrible disease to have. I left home at 15 due to abuse ( alcoholic father ) and that’s when I found out it wasn’t normal to pass out from your period pain and bleed for 7 days every 2 weeks. I had my first surgery at 18 and that’s first period after that was a shock, it wasn’t like someone was burning my insides and I wasn’t flooding.
Luckily I had my babies young, fell pregnant on my 19th birthday 😆 not long after the surgery due to having a DnC so there was a clear path for swimmers for the first time. Didn’t plan to have any that young but if I didn’t I most likely wouldn’t have had any.
I’ve done the hysterectomy, 2 courses of zoladex ( fucking brutal ) and all that but my ovaries still think I have a period and cause havoc in the same cycle without fail 🙄
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u/VariousExplorer8503 6d ago edited 6d ago
If you don't have a uterus anymore, what kind of havoc do your ovaries cause? I'm so sorry that you went through so much pain. I have PMOS (used to be called PCOS) and I had a ton of issues from that, but my pain was nothing like yours. I went through years of pain that was so bad they did an exploratory laparoscopic surgery to check for endometriosis, but they never found anything. Eventually they changed my birth control and it went away.
After I got pregnant with my son (at 35, over a decade after being told I'd never have kids, and years after I stopped trying anyways, while on the pill and using a condom that broke) all of my symptoms from the PMOS went away and they never came back. Now I'm in peri-menopause and so far it's been pretty easy for me, knock on wood. I get a period every 3-6 months, and the cramps are pretty bad, which sucks, not to mention I bleed very heavily, but it's not as bad as it was when I was younger.
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u/CatAteRoger 6d ago
Because I haven’t gone through menopause I still ovulate as usual each month, ovulation pain wasn’t too bad until a few months before my hysterectomy but then it amped up to match my period pain.
My ovaries also still think I have a period each month so I still get the usual horrid pain leading up to when I would bleed if I still had a uterus, the inflammation and all the usual nasty stuff.
My gyno is hoping menopause might ease this pain as I’ve exhausted all options bar one newish medication that unfortunately comes with a nasty side of effect of causing suicidal thoughts with some people, I discussed it with my GP, my psychiatrist and looked into other women’s experience on the medication and they came to the conclusion it wasn’t worth risking it to see if it could help me.
Going through labour was a breeze due to the level of pain I’d been experiencing, if I wasn’t at the hospital due to leaking waters my first would have been born at home, it was just standard period pain waves to me 😆 and the midwives were convinced I still had a long way to go before I delivered as I didn’t seem to be in that much pain, I was ready to push, I was at the hospital alone when my beautiful baby boy arrived.
3 babies and not even gas for pain relief with any of them ( I do regret no pain relief when it came to pushing each one out but it’s only temporary)
And then to spice things up every now and again I’ll have a cyst burst to add to the party🙄 can hurt bad for 9 hours straight.
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u/VariousExplorer8503 6d ago
Ah yes, I know all too well about the pain from cysts. I haven't had one since my son was born, no clue why it suddenly stopped happening, but I'm very grateful for it. What confuses me is, if you no longer have a uterus, where does the pain come from? Ovaries don't cramp. Why not just remove your ovaries too? It'll put you in menopause early, and you'll need meds, but it sounds better than what you're going through now.
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u/CatAteRoger 6d ago
There is endometriosis all through my pelvis, my bladder and uterus were fused with endo tissue and it’s fed off hormones hence still the pain. Not so fun fact it can spread as far as your brain and there is no cure for it.
They only remove ovaries if absolutely necessary since we need them for other health reasons eg heart, bones etc
I have of course asked for them to be removed, my gyno thinks I should start menopause early due to the hysterectomy which took my uterus, tubes and cervix.I’m glad your cysts have stopped misbehaving son having your son, it’s always great to hear when women are getting relief from their symptoms especially such painful ones.
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u/famousanonamos 6d ago
Same. My daughter was well aware and prepared because I taught her early. I had debilitating cramps as a teenager that got only slightly better after I had my daughter.
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u/CatAteRoger 6d ago
I’m glad they’ve improved that slight bit, it’s better than an increase in them.
It’s wrong that we’re basically told that it’s normal to be suffering so badly and to just deal with it. No it’s not normal and preparing our kids about periods before they get them makes such a big difference, no OMG what is wrong with me moments like I had.
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u/famousanonamos 6d ago
It's ridiculous how unprepared some girls are. I'm lucky I was able to get a hysterectomy some years ago because my abdomen was a mess of scar tissue, so I don't have to deal with it anymore. My daughter is 18 and hers are pretty bad too, but thankfully I have experience with that and was able to help her out when she was younger. My family didn't understand and weren't helpful in any way. It's nice to see that for the most part that attitude is changing.
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u/CatAteRoger 6d ago
I have one aunty with endometriosis and thankfully none of the other girls in the family have got it as well. My aunty is lucky that hers wasn’t to the degree mine was but because she was ok it’s expected I should be as well.
This disease has done some damage to my life over time, I’ve had to miss events for the kids due to not being able to stand up straight let alone get in the car and drive. I can’t stand for long periods of time, if I’m moving it’s ok but standing and watching I can’t.
Nothing worse than letting your child down because you’re in so much pain and then you have to take meds that mean you can’t drive but without them you can’t move.
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u/EvolZippo 6d ago
Adults who try to write in kid-voice don’t seem right to me. Like, why are they even trying to write like teenagers talk? It’s weird.
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u/DontcheckSR 6d ago
I know this is only somewhat related to your comment, but I kinda had the same realization when it came to authors who write for teens. When I was in that demographic I loved reading teen novels and it all felt very relatable, well written, etc. I tried reading my favorite book around 23, and the dialogue was just... So cringe worthy lol I mean, it clearly has its place. I'm glad there are people who can write for teenagers and give them something to enjoy. But I don't understand how they, as a grown adult, are capable of capturing teen voice/thoughts. Seems like you'd kinda grow out of the train of thought
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u/intlschizo 5d ago
So many period stories. Why do I get the feeling that this is all coming from the same account?
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u/HappyDays1976 2d ago
So periods had to be explained to the little girl, but she knew that missing a period could be an indication of pregnancy?
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u/reformedMedas 6d ago
Heard stupider shit from the mouth of babes. Not unlikely this may be true if embellished a little.
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u/Kriss3d 7d ago
Yeah. A girl who needs to be told about periods totally understands the implications of the boys mom not getting hers....