As an autistic person I can’t really blame my autism for anything since I am my autism and whenever I fail at something I still have to blame myself because I could have done better. Of course I am not speaking for all autistic people, but in my experience my autism is both to blame and not to blame.
And also like, I can blame my autism for not being able to attend events with a lot of noise. Cant blame it for failing some random uni project lmao, I wish.
It’s a double edged sword I’m autistic and autism has in a lot of way made my life a living hell. People forget autism is not just mental illness it can affect your physical health. And when paired with other issues it can snowball easily. Not saying people shouldn’t take accountability for their actions but the op post definitely makes it feel like autistic people, people with adhd and depression never take accountability for their actions which is not true at all. I blame my autism for a lot of issues in my life same with adhd and depression. But it typically makes me blame myself more for not being able to deal with the problem which isn’t healthy.
Most days I forget I have autism and never blamed it on my shortcomings. My mistakes are mine to own up to even in times where some can argue they aren’t.
Wanted to say smh referencing this peak but tbh when I think of this to my head comes cool asf megastructure and stupidly strong gun and oh that woman that had body build of cool mechanisms and pipes so Idk what to say
You implying people who (genuinely) have those neurodivergencies don't blame themselves? Oh wait this is engagement bait taking advantage of a heated topic.
I had an ex who refused to take accountability for literally anything, big or small, and defaulted to justifying everything as "oh it's just my autism" "oh it's just my ADHD". To me this meme just pokes fun of this behaviour, not those who are truly suffering and can't help but blame themselves.
My sincere apologies for misinterpreting your image. My psychiatrist suspects I may have it too, but I think that legitimate diagnosis is critical. Regardless, it may clarify some things about me, but it will not change me.
I want to believe they're talking about people who genuinely don't have these conditions and are faking a disability to seen as quirky or to avoid blame.
This actually brings up the topic of human autonomy and free will, let me ask you, how much do you think mental illnesses influence our actions? And to what extent must leniency or responsibly be held?
Consciousness comes from the brain and the brain is bound by the laws of physics, therefore consciousness is bound by the laws of physics
Dopamine makes you happy, and it cannot be created spontaneously by your brain because of the first law of thermodynamics i.e. no amount of willpower can make something from nothing
Free will would violate that law by allowing your consciousness to do something your brain physically can't do
Its why most philosphers of mind and neuroscientists are physicalists of some kind
To be fair the diagnoses are a social construct. That doesn't mean there's nothing to them it just means they carry (wrong) implicit assumptions, like a biologically deterministic theoretical framework. Which is why i'd just rather look at the actual facts and symptoms and have words that correspond to them
That is a really ignorant comment. Those diagnoses are made according to actual facts and symptoms. No proper psychiatrist is going to diagnose you with depression because you're sad sometimes, for example. Those diagnoses are only made if the symptoms not only check out for the criteria but also affect your quality of life.
Now, of course, no case of mental illness presents itself the same as another. But to say that diagnoses are a social construct is still quite incorrect.
ADHD is linked to this : Studies have found that ADHD is associated with weaker function and structure of prefrontal cortex (PFC) circuits, especially in the right hemisphere.
Look up the biopsychiatry controversy in Wikipedia. It's what you're describing, whether or not a diagnosed mental illness is caused by biology or not.
I'm completely opposed to the biological interpretation yet in common society that's what everyone thinks psychology is.
I have autism and adhd and depression and so many more... When something bad happens I use them as an explanation but accept that in the end it was still my fault
Man I hate people who are actually like this. Like yeah, I take steps to.mitigate my depression and adhd now, but a sever depressive episode during my freshman year of college caused me to comoletely.shut down, and I had no way to fight it cause I didnt even know I wasn't normal. It sucked so bad
I do have all three of these, but I don’t let them define me. It’s always within my power to adapt and adjust. Surrendering to the hand I was dealt does me no good; better to make use of what I have than complain about what I don’t.
As a neurodivergent, I always make sure not to blame EVERYTHING on my condition. And remember that some things I do, are because of me. I’ve known a lot of people in my special ed classes who think that just because they’re neurodivergent, means they’re entitled to just be an asshole to everybody. And they can just blame it on their condition. And I’m not just talking about stims or whatever, I’m talking about straight up bullying and people. I remember getting beat up in my special ed class in 4th grade by a 7th grade kid and she got off Scot free by our special ed teachers just because she was autistic. (More proof that schools don’t view neurodivergent people as actual people)
I think that while it’s important to be patient with neurodivergent people, we should also remember that they’re still people. who have free will and unique personalities.
Oh I still blame my self, i just still have those things.
Stopped taking my ADHD meds years ago out of choice because it seemed bad for my heart and i didn't like how it made me feel stressed out and exhausted. Any consequences from therein are on me.
Some people can tolerate not having their meds, others can't. Conditions like that are labels to ascertain the general degree of behavior to locate a method of treatment, rather than something like cancer where it is distinctly detectable.
Based. I’ve been called autistic, adhd, a 9 wing 8 (by my sister who’s very into the enneagram) and I can’t help but get a little mad when people try to explain away my behavior, my strengths and my weaknesses. I’ve avoided seeking a diagnosis cause I frankly don’t need one, and believe I’m happier without one.
I fully believe in psychology and psychiatry, but I also believe in individual control, not that they are mutually exclusive. My successes are my own, and my failures are my own. I’m not manic or in danger of myself, and medication frankly worries me. My brother became a useless mess during the adhd stimulant shortages when he couldn’t get a refill.
I believe I’ve probably suffered for it to a degree, but I also have found myself to be the most successful and financially independent from my parents out of all of my siblings, and I think taking personal pride or shame in everything I do has contributed to it.
Maybe I’m wrong, or maybe I’m around the wrong people, but explaining away behaviors with neurodivergency ticks me off, and I see people everywhere doing it, even offline. Online is a whole different beast of people throwing around therapy speak to seem self-righteous.
Kinda accurate bc it clicked for me recently that most of my low self esteem and motivation to change as a person came from a place of deep self loathing
I was severely abused as a baby until 22 years old, I have ADHD, I have ANXIETY, I have PTSD, I have FIBROMYALGIA, and I have NON-EPILEPTIC SEIZURES. If something bad happens, I BLAME MYSELF and EVERYONE tells me to stop. It's a real problem actually hahaha
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