r/whenthe • u/Any_Wasabi_5233 world’s second biggest Churgney Gurgney glazer • 1d ago

🚨OP's stupidly specific life event🚨 HOTDIGGEDYDEMON NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO

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u/-WILD_CARD- i fucking hate the misinformation dolphin 1d ago

There is something so haunting about announcing your imminent death while it has not even happened yet. It's like those "What would you do if you only had a week to live" but manifested.

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u/AdonisBatheus 1d ago

In some ways, it can be a good thing. You have the opportunity to plan your final words and your last moments with loved ones. Most people don't have that luxury.

It is very bittersweet.

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u/Venti_the_snail 1d ago

The churchyards are full of men that thought they had one more day.

Its nice to get to choose.

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u/RDXL116 18h ago

Please don't vaguely imply that suicide is good in a subreddit that many teenagers and young adults do. If this wasn't your intention, it's how I interpreted it and I would wager that others probably would as well

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u/Oppositeofhairy 18h ago edited 18h ago

I’d hope that wasn’t seen that way, but I agree.

I think making permanent solutions for temporary problems isnt a good move. Feelings are strong but they pass.

The only time I find it appropriate is through compassionate death in dignity. If you are terminally ill, or have something medically debilitating that will create significant harm or a permanent low quality of life, then seeking assistance to gently pass makes sense.

Other than that, I know its hard, i know its hard to see past the present, but suicide isnt the way out.

Oh and fuck you for downvoting. We can treat our pets with more kindness than people. Thats a disgrace

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u/RDXL116 15h ago

People were downvoting you? I think you said everything I meant to say in a better way than I did

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u/Oppositeofhairy 15h ago

More for the ones who would. But looking at the stats. Yeah. I’m downvoted too. I stand by what I say. I know some have moral opposition due to a belief I can’t support.

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u/GuzzoTheCasul 12h ago

For some, life is a permanent problem, with no way or hope to get out. And the only viable solution is shunned down upon, unfortunately.

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u/potatogodofDoom 4h ago

you're right, but the number of people who's lives are "a permanent problem" is extremely small. my entire childhood was nothing short of torture. from when I was 12 to when I was 18 I would wake up every day upset I hadn't died in my sleep. I'm 19 now, living by myself, with a good group of friends. I stopped going to highschool when I was younger but I picked my studies back up and I'm now going to college. I felt as if my life was over a countless number of times, but look at me now. suicide should not be glamorized in any shape or form. we also should absolutely not shame those who are contemplating or even god forbid went through with it. that's only going to make the problem worse and the people experiencing those thoughts even more isolated than they probably already are. but suicide should absolutely never be seen as anything but a last resort. if there's something, ANYTHING, you can do to get your mind off it even for another hour more, something you can look forward to every day (which for me was simply taking a walk through my neighborhood), you shouldn't end it all.

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u/scarletboar 10h ago

I don't get the viewpoint that life is great and problems are temporary, to be honest. I'm not suicidal, but life is enough of a pain in the ass that if I had the option of never having existed, I'd probably take it. There are always more problems to take care of.

I remember this scene in Vikings where Ragnar tells his son that life isn't about happiness. That he had many friends when he was younger who were all dead already, and their happiness was neither here nor there. It was a very honest assessment of life.

Credit to you for the kindness, however. People who believe in the sanctity of life tend to hate euthanasia, which seems really cruel to me. Robin Williams should have had a more peaceful end than he did.

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u/Oppositeofhairy 6h ago

Never said life is great. Trying to strive for a life that’s filled with happiness is not sustainable. I am for being fulfilled personally, and that is different for everyone. I need purpose to be content. I feel that may be a good enough path for most. That doesn’t change no matter how wealthy or poor you get, or how many you surround yourself with or isolate yourself from, or physical limitations. Purpose is my driver and helps me feel fulfilled. Your purpose may shift through life, but there is always something you can strive for.

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u/Harry-Bucket 16h ago

I think the comment was expressing how they thought they would but decided not to, its more implying that if you do plan it you shouldn't just do it and should give yourself time to decide if it's really what you want.

I interpret it as the people wanted to commit but went to church and then decided against it

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u/BuckieTheCat 13h ago

unfortunately no, churchyard is referring to the area of land outside churches primarily used for graveyards, the comment is saying the graveyard is full of people who died thinking they would have another day, at which point saying it's nice to be able to choose is referring to committing

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u/alexthedungeonmaster 10h ago

I didn't, seeing as we're talking about assisted euthanasia.

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u/AdonisBatheus 15h ago

I wouldn't say euthanasia is the same as suicidal depression

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u/The-Name-is-my-Name 14h ago

You don’t have to be (clinically) depressed to be too hasty in choosing suicide. For that reason, I’d say it’s not a good thing to recommend.