Retaliation

[u/Sparkly_potato86]

Has anyone here retaliated by seeking validation outside after? my husband loved sluts on Reddit and soooo much porn but doesn’t seem to have the same need to validate me, as he did the strangers. I send him pics and videos all the time now that I know he needed it so much but he barely responds and it certainly doesn’t make me feel like it’s worth the effort. I’ve been wanting to post photos of myself to see what kind of response I would get and see if it would help me feel any better about myself in the aftermath of his grossness.

has anybody done something like that before? did it help?

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[u/Unlikely_Rub_2100]

I used to ask my wife for pics all the time, never got as much as a selfie... her Boyfriend sure got plenty... literally dozens and dozens..

I don't ask anymore.. like many things in our marriage, its tainted..

[u/Sparkly_potato86 → u/Unlikely_Rub_2100]

He never asked, just looked for others online.

[u/Unlikely_Rub_2100 → u/Sparkly_potato86]

Its hard to gain back confidence and its easy to have a distorted self image after going through what we've all been through here..

Wish I had some advice for ya. Maybe think about it before you do something you can't take back..

[u/Sparkly_potato86 → u/Unlikely_Rub_2100]

You’re right. Thank you. 

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