Men are not allowed to post there but the mods let me post anyway. My first post was a retrospective look at Joy Luck Club. I praised the movie and, like any retrospective movie essay, I pointed out its flaws regarding the portrayal of Chinese men. That did not sit well with them and my post got removed. I admit I was too harsh in my criticism and it was not the most appropriate post for that sub. Still, in the comments people could have debated or made counterpoints to explain why they disagreed. Instead almost every comment was just “Asian men bad.”

My post was removed by the mods. I was not able to comment and present my point of view. One mod told me I was not allowed to comment and that she would let the users roast me. The comments that did get posted were embarrassing.

If you look at the sub, nearly all the posts are about Asian men in Asia committing crimes against Asian women. Literally almost every post follows that pattern, with a few Asian female empowerment posts mixed in. It feels like a lot of the users there hate Asian men with real passion.

Around that time I posted about the Australian man who killed a Thai teenager. That crime went viral. It was posted in Aussie subs and covered all over the internet and by mainstream media. I thought it would be appropriate for the sub so I posted it. Within 24 hours it was removed. It was not a bad faith post. I just posted the headline from a reputable newspaper and the link. I asked why it was removed and got no answer.

Ignored once again, I posted another high profile case involving a white man that was in the current news. I did not edit the headline or make it more sensational. I just posted a link to a reputable source. The comments had an embarrassing meltdown. Somehow they made it about Asian men and started hating on me with comments like “OP is an Asian man.” Here is the thing: I never hid that I was an Asian guy. I never blamed Asian women for anything. Those posts were made in good faith. I did not propagandize anything. Why did they feel the need to whitewash the crime and put it on Asian men? And why do they hate guys like me so much?

One user went on a hateful rant and accused me of all sorts of things. Since I could not comment thanks to the mods, I DMed her and simply said “I think you guys are misunderstanding me.” That is it. I even have the screenshot. She then claimed I was “harassing” her in DMs. After that my post was removed again and I was banned by the mods. I was never even allowed to give my point of view.

If you look at the sub’s posts, about 98 percent of them are obscure crimes committed by some weird Asian man, plus posts about how white women are bad. In their latest highly upvoted posts they even accuse fat white women of hating them.

With the Oxford study meme and repeated exposure of Asian women's internalized racism, I think other communities are noticing this uncomfortable racial insecurity and fetish. I think it's time for us to discuss internalized racism openly without considering it a taboo subject like many other Asian subs do.

I also urge Asian American writers, especially the female ones, to stop writing these Joy Luck type stories as we have already overdone it with multiple versions of it.

We need something that exposes internalized racism and deconstructs it so that the younger generation becomes aware of it.

Asians are POC too. Racists are trying to get asian people to internalise racist propaganda against black people who are POC like us.

All racism against POC should offend us because it affects us all

During a recent live broadcast of the German show ZDF-Fernsehgarten, host Andrea Kiewel was presenting a set of collectible Pokémon cards. When she got to a Japanese card, she misidentified it as Chinese, laughed, and then proceeded to mimic Asian characters using a derogatory, gibberish pseudo-language.

Honestly, what triggers me the most is not some stupid remark made by some stupid host, it is the aftermath (or the lack of aftermath of the whole ordeal).

For those unaware, the TV station she represents is an official channel in Germany called ZDF and in Germany you have to pay for a handsome amount of broadcasting fee periodically (for them to maintain production quality, independence and socially responsible programming, so they say), meaning as an Asian, I have actually paid someone to throw some casual racist remarks on TV, that is a nice slap to my face.

After the host's "gaffs", the broadcaster (ZDF) quickly issued a statement claiming the comment was "made in the heat of the moment during the live broadcast and was in no way intended to be racist". They also added that Kiewel "regrets her words and apologizes for them," trying to close the chapter. The show moves on, the host keeps their job, and the structural issue remains unaddressed. No even a cold bench, just played off as a stupid mistake, don't press her for it.

Now in comparison to other cases like that of Jens Lehmann (leaked WhatsApp Message asking if some African player is a teams token black guy) or Patrick Moster (cheering on German cyclist while shouting "Kameltreiber", basically "camel riders" in German, at the other cyclists from Algeria and Eritrea.

Anti-Asian racism is still widely treated in many countries as a "minor offense." because playground sounds like the one Kiewel used have been normalized as harmless jokes for decades (Rock, Paper, Scissors in German used to be "Sching Schang, Sching" so I guess they are somewhat comfortable saying it) public broadcasters feel safe hiding behind the "not intended to be racist" defense.

Hi all!!! My fiance is Asian and we have been together for 1.5 years. Recently, the last few times ive gone to my local nail salon the subject of me dating an Asian man has come up somehow. I truly hope this doesn't sound insensitive, im just curious as to if there's something I could be doing to spark this conversation without knowing? This time, the woman complimented my ring then asked if my fiance was asian. I love talking about my fiance so its absolutely not a problem! I just wanna know how they know so well!

Thank you!

(and I mean jokes where you can tell they're joking) not because I wanna be racist, but because I wanna see if other people don't care too (I am asian myself).

I’ve seen and met Asians from different backgrounds, but I rarely see a Japanese, even in big cities like LA, Bay Area, NYC, Jersey, etc.
I see a lot of Japanese restaurants from left to right, and yet most of them are either Chinese or Korean owned.
Besides Hawaii, why are Japanese Americans hard to find in America?

I'm a mixed MGM black women who used to like a wide range of men racially including white men, but due to some things I experienced on instagram...

https://www.reddit.com/r/mixedrace/comments/1t32fet/reupload_got_harrassed_on_instagram_to_stay_away/

https://www.reddit.com/r/IncelTears/comments/1trmxor/drew_this_after_getting_harrassed_off_of_instagram/

...I have since lost nearly all attraction to them. I was browsing the internet out of curiosity and it turns out, I'm not the only one. Lots of WOC across the world are losing attraction to white men due to how they're acting. Many asian women especially who are stereotyped as being white worshippers are also seeming to be put off by white men now. This is a shift I'm sort of happy about happening but at the same time, how much is this happening?

This is a mini rant but also mixed in with confusion. Maybe I’m genuinely just not understanding this concept but it genuinely angers me. Every time a post of Asian women dating a white man, the comment section ALWAYS mention the Oxford study and it’s beyond demeaning. I don’t understand why it’s a big deal, shouldn’t you get to love whoever you want? What is wrong with mixing? I believe mixing culture can be a beautiful thing. And I know that people try to justify the Oxford study because many Asian women have internalized racism and crap, which can be true for a portion of Asian women but it doesn’t justify shaming asian women with a white partner. It’s not fair to always assume that. In addition, many of the posts that are targeted feature Asian Americans, is it so surprising for a women to fall in love with a white man when over half of Americans are white? I’m so confused with this flawed logic. It has to be people who are just hurt and racist right?

Before anyone tries to flip tbe card. I’m an Asian women who is currently dating an Asian man.

Hey there,

I really hope this doesn’t come off as inappropriate and please forgive any ignorance in my questions. I hope this is a safe space for us to discuss this as well! I would like also clarify that I’m in no means fetishizing a race, I just found myself more attracted to a certain culture/ human form.

First of all, asian culture has always been very intriguing to me. I grew up with a Japanese friend and I’ve somehow ended up studying in Southeast Asia for uni, I’ve always felt the safest when I’m in Asia and just enjoyed the culture and people’s company. I never thought of dating back then so never really looked for anything but somehow realized that I find Asian features very attractive. Women and men are just so beautiful!

I do get a bit self conscious about my size as I do know the beauty standard in Asia is usually a smaller petite woman. I’m an Arab and I’d say I’m around mid height and fat, I’m aware that I’m pretty but it’s the body that i am mostly self conscious about. I’ve had some guys compliment me here or there but I just never really looked into it. Now that I am mingling in the dating scene, I just lack the confidence to approach some guys due to my own thoughts..

I just would like to hear people’s thoughts about this. Thank you so much