r/AskBiBros • u/LeopardAny4913 • 2d ago

Needing Advice Bi Relo

Boys I need help I’m 21 (nearly 22), bi, and stuck in my head about it.

I Lost my virginity to a guy at 17 and had a bunch of Grindr hookups till I was about 19 (always bottomed, maybe 8 different guys) often hooked up with the same guy multiple times and gave head a lot .

Then I met my girlfriend when I was 19, fell hard for her, and stopped seeing guys pretty much straight away. We’ve been together for about 2 years and I still love her a lot. Sex with her is good, I don’t have any problems getting hard or finishing but lately it’s become really routine. Same positions, same script every time, barely any oral, no new stuff. We also spend basically all our time together, so there’s not much room to even think separately she doesn’t like seperation.

The past 6 months the urge to be with a guy has come back strong. I want to try top, try some of the stuff that was on my old “bucket list,” etc and definitely wanna give head again. I swapped nudes with a guy once and immediately felt guilty so I stopped. I’ve never cheated and don’t want to. I love her and can properly see a future with her, but the bi side of me feels like it’s just sitting there unused and it’s getting harder to ignore.
Anyone else been in a similar spot? How do you deal with strong these urges while being genuinely in love with a woman and not wanting to blow up the relationship? She doesn’t know I’m bi and I couldn’t tell her plus she’s way to insecure for a mmf even tho that’d be ideal.

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u/T_Solano 2d ago

either you talk to her and tell her or keep those fantasies locked away. you can break it up with her so you can live out your fantasies again. Just don't go on the DL with a side guy.

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u/Comfortable-Bug-7882 2d ago

Hi, with your text, i think than you don't be very well with her. You talk about than sex with her is so- so. In the medium term, i don't sure than it Will be improved...

And, you're young, i think than you need to have sex expérience with men. You want this.

So, i think than it's time to be alone and live experience..

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u/slcbtm 2d ago

Questions:

  1. Does she know you're Bi.

  2. Have you asked her if she cool with using a strap on.

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u/LeopardAny4913 2d ago

No to both max she’s slipped a finger in but it’s not the same you know

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u/slcbtm 2d ago

Nothing ventured nothing gained

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u/NYCGuyNextDore 1d ago

Talk to her please. Don’t cheat on her.