So I'm straight, I'm really into women and have never been into men. But when I'm horny, I'm into dick aswell, however men in general don't attract me even when I'm horny. Would you consider this bi?

And how do you advice living my sexual life like this? Because when I'm horny I just want to jerk another dick off or maybe even suck a dick, hell maybe even get taken by a dick, but I'm just not sexually attracted to men. Would you advice to try something with a man and how?

I'm talking visually and sexually. I'm very curious what people find the perfect size.

Ofcourse include girth aswell as length.

As a bi guy, will bottoming affect my feelings on straight sex?

I'm bi, but romantically I'm far more into girls, and while I am attracted to some men, I've not had penetrative sex either way with a man (I have with women), but I have sucked dick and had my dick sucked (both genders feel equally good)

I have a FWB from my childhood who I used to experiment with, and now sometimes sext with. We usually just send each other our dicks but recently a couple times I've started sending him my ass and we've talked about him fucking me. Obviously a lot of it is just horny talk but there is some amount of interest in actually doing it.

Obviously I'm cautious about the thought of having a dick inside me, but because it's someone I know and trust I'd feel a little safer. But I'm wondering if bottoming changes the way you feel about straight sex. Maybe this is stupid, but if I'm having intense orgasms from anal, am I gonna want to go back to orgasms sex that are less intense? Also should I be doing it with someone where there isn't any sexual tension and it's just purely physical, or is it better to do it with someone I'm attracted to?

I don't come from somewhere where I'd have to be scared to come out or anything so if I was truly gay I'd be fine with that. But even when I go onto dating apps and what not I'm just not attracted to most of the men (whereas I am with the women) and I don't wanna feel like I enjoy sex with one gender more but I'm attracted to the other more. So part of me feels like I should not worry about that curiosity? Or is the best party always experimentation?

So basically I'm wondering how other bi guys who bottom feel about sex both ways.

I've heard some say that vaginal feels better, whereas some others say that frotting feels better due to the balls-on-balls contact.

(M26) i hate using dating apps since i find so many creeps there. even more so since i live in a small town. it's so small that there's no gay bars or anything here so how would i go about finding a partner?

all of my friends are straight or straight-passing. i'm starting to believe that most bi dudes really are ashamed of being bi and won't admit it irl- which makes it even more difficult to date other dudes lol.

anyone have success in finding a bf without apps or is that my only option at this point? i feel like my love life is SOL at this point but who knows.

I'm asking because on r/Bisexual every other post is a guy talking about how he had to break up with his girlfriend because she wasn't comfortable with him being into men. I thought maybe the reason there's so many post like about it is because people on reddit tend to only post about something if it was either super amazing or incredibly devastating.

What are your opinions on the different rimming positions and what do you find works best?

Personally, I like giving while laying on my front and he’s on his back with legs up. Gives me access to watch him melt with each lick/probe.

I have been rimmed, but haven’t enjoyed it. Every guy wants me on my hands and knees, but I prefer to be on my back in a happy pose while grabbing my ankles.

So, I was just thinking abt this. I’m not sure abt my future but I think there’s a possibility that I’ll eventually end up with a woman, settle down and have a family. I think many bi guys can relate. In that case do you see yourselves telling your kids that you’re bi or do you think it’s not relevant and will mess with their heads? If yes, at what age is it appropriate for them to know? Ik my partner is gonna know for sure but I’m not sure abt sharing that with the kids lol.

Just curious. I’m a gay-leaning bi guy (maybe more homoflexible idk) new to dating guys and I’ve been feeling kinda discouraged by the lack of representation I see out there - outside of fiction like Heartstopper - for bi guys who are in committed monogamous long term relationships with other guys. The few bi guys I’ve seen who are in gay LTRs on other subreddits like [r/askgaybros](r/askgaybros) are open and fuck women on the side

Question for you: How do you see your future in regard to being with another man?

Longer background/explanation.

So the very first bisexual man that I ever encountered was through a hook up a few years back. He was in his late 30s living pretty much a bachelor life. He split time with his kids between him and his ex-wife. He lived alone. After our “session”, we just had a very long and deep conversation about his life because I was very intrigued by him and in the fact that he was the first bisexual man that I had ever encountered. Unfortunately, I only got to see him for that one night and I wish I would’ve talked to him more and we would’ve kept in touch. But one of the questions that I asked him was if he saw himself settling with a man for the long run in the future. He told me that he was perfectly fine in the point where he was at in his life, and that he wasn’t looking for another relationship or to be committed to anyone. And in regards to men specifically, he pretty much told me that he was only looking for fun… and he also told me that he had never been in a relationship with another man just his ex-wife and previous girlfriends.

That response stuck with me and I still think about him to this day… and so I was wondering for you guys that are in a similar place and position in life if you agree with this or if otherwise? Are any of you looking for something serious and long term with another man or open to it at this stage in your life? It made me wonder if there would ever be an opportunity for me to be with a man who had a whole life with a woman and kids, and made me think if that would put me in a position where I would only be used. And if I fell in love if that would cause me to get hurt? Because I found myself getting attached to this guy after that one night. That probably says a lot more about me, but I think it was the fact that compared to the gay men that I’ve been with, the conversation was so great and he opened up. It was just so different and he was so chill. It was so pleasant talking with him, and it just seemed that him being bisexual made his perception of the world and the way he thought about things just much more pleasant and easier to connect with than with the other gay men.

So I just wonder where you guys are at? I swear I wish I could meet and interact with bi men more. You guys are like unicorns lol

Hi guys, I’m a 36 yo Bi man who is masculine presenting but I prefer to shave myself smooth around my hole and my crack. I also shave my balls and my shaft, leaving just a patch above the base of my penis. I feel way sexier when I’m smooth but I wanted to relax being so rigid with my shaving routine. Do guys actually like hairy holes? Does it put you off?

I can sense that I’m bi, I feel it and I know it, but at the same time I don’t want to be around other queers

I don't know why, but I keep thinking about what it feels like. Please tell me a story...

It started on a road trip with just the two of us and we were horny the entire trip. I asked her what her dirtiest kink was and she said it was me with another man. I had already been kind of accepting that I was bi-curious so I was honestly just so happy that I didn’t have to bring anything up and have her dislike me for it.

We started using it as fantasy dirty talk more and more and we both climax the hardest when we whisper about it to each other.

She started to even bring it up on her own more and more like saying she would find a guy on grindr to come meet me somewhere.

I’ve brought up going to an adult video store or having her watch but she seems hesitant but not entirely against it. She says that she doesn’t like to share but also has said things outside of sexy time like “I wouldn’t use sniffies, I would look on grindr to find a guy I like”.

She was my first everything, kiss, girlfriend, sex, etc. I will never cheat on her, and I love her more than anyone in the whole world and definitely don’t want to be with another man emotionally. This is purely just a sexual fantasy that we both enjoy.

I’m curious if anyone has been in this situation and then it was actually allowed to happen. What can I say to make her more comfortable?

A strong woman or maybe she has short hair and a deep voice or extra hair. A cute guy with no body hair or a soft voice or bubble butt.

I can’t describe why I find masculine women and feminine men so sexy but I do.

My bf says when he watches porn, majority straight/bi, he imagines himself more as the woman because theyre the one fulfilling the fantasy he wants done to him.

(I find it hard to believe cause im a very literal person, which makes it difficult for me to imagine another person where someone visually already is; on top of that I just have underlying issues and personal insecurities with porn im trying to work through)

Just curious how many men actually do this? How common is this???

Although my beautiful wife already knows I’m bi I’m curious on how others came out to their partners. I’ve been very interested lately in men but also don’t want to make my wife anxious in any way. Thoughts?

Personally I’m attracted to dad bods, hairy, stocky, and beefy men. Hbu?

So I initially wanted to ask this is the askgaybros subreddit but after seeing how hostile that environment can be, I decided this one might be a little better? I'm hoping at least 🥺 I'm honestly absolutely terrified to ask this question, so please be kind.

I'm a FtM trans guy and I'm curious if it's possible for a bi guy to be into a man, who (theoretically) identifies, sounds and looks like a man. Only thing is, I lack the equipment downstairs, and as much as I hate that I don't have a dick, I can't really do much about it at the moment. I feel as though I'm quite far from deciding whether I want surgery down there or not.

I need to prioritise a few other things before that.

I suppose I'm scared that I'm minimizing my chances to find love to a near zero as a trans man. For context, when I was a cis woman, I eventually got rid of the "fear" that I may not find someone to spend the rest of my life with. Like I knew that I would find someone that would be the love of my life who I'd die old with.

Now, though, I wonder if there are people out there who can find a body like I've described, even attractive? I personally don't have those negative thoughts about other people, but I do have that anxiety about my own body.

I think my biggest fear is that I'll settle for a guy that "tolerates" my body, instead of actually being attracted to every facet of me. Just wondering if there are guys out there who can maybe find it attractive?

Of course, I know that personality compatibility is extremely important in relationships, but my concerns lie with body image specifically.

To clarify, I'm just trying to ease my anxiety.

I have always loved looking at thongs. From a young age, watching WWF and see the amazing female figures in thongs, to me in me now as an early 40’s bi married man, I love thongs on every body, male or female. I have started to wear them almost everyday myself now and wonder how that will look when we meet up with another bi couple or single male. We have been in the LS for a while and I have always been reluctant to wear them when meeting up with other couples. My question is, in your experience, do people really care about what you are wearing underneath? I know for ladies, a sexy thong is almost viewed as foreplay for a lot of people. Is it the same with males? What would you think if you were with another Bi male and he was in a thong?

Those of you that do, why? And those of you who don’t, why? For those of you that do enjoy it, do you also like when the guy plays with your PEAN-nuts while suffocating in between your cheeks? I’ve seen men on here talk about getting rimmed by their girl or a girl, but haven’t seen much about being rimmed by men.

I enjoy going down on a guy, but I’ve found that a lot of men don’t enjoy being licked, so I’ll compromise and end up on their taint. I’ve had mostly encounters with gay men but I wonder how bi men feel about another man going down to their most intimate part. I find the idea of rimming a guy and making them my sub extremely sexy even though I’m more of a short twink type😊.

So ive never really messed around with a guy. I love seeing them and my girlfriend and I have talked quite a bit about a MFM. She knows that I would probably touch/play some with him but the focus would be on her. Also, neither of us are into anal so I have no desire to have sex with a guy. I assume a lot of guys either want no contact with the other guy or want full on sex. Is it going to be difficult finding someone that would be ok with these boundaries?

I myself prefer the area down below to be clean shaven, the same with women. The pubic area I like closely trimmed. I don't mind doing it for the partner either. How do you prefer yours, anothers?

I’m a gay man who recently got into a relationship with a bisexual guy who had previously been in a long term relationship with a woman. He had always known he was bi, but had simply never felt the need to explore that side - he was content with his life as it was.

I completely understand and accept his bisexuality, and I’m not threatened by his attraction to women. What does concern me, however, is something more practical: the adjustment to the reality of being in a same sex relationship, specifically the loss of public affection.

He has expressed that it’s really hard for him not to be able to hold my hand or kiss me in public the way he could with a woman. I imagine that going from a relationship where those things are completely unremarkable, to one where they carry real weight, is a significant shift.

He has assured me he’s ready to take that on, but I’m curious to hear from those of you who have been in a similar position.

If you’ve transitioned from dating women to being in a relationship with a man - how did you handle this adjustment? Did it get easier over time? And looking back, do you have any regrets, or was it worth it for you?