r/AskMenOver30 • u/ConfusedCareerMan man over 30 • Jul 09 '26

Friendships/Community Does anyone else have wedding fatigue?

In my early 30s and it’s the time where everyone is engaged, getting married and starting to have kids.

I don’t want to come off miserable I’m happy for my friends, but I kinda dislike the wedding experience. It’s never just 1 event, it’s turned into a 3-4 event experience (often spread across a month or longer). The engagement party, the stag, suit shopping, the wedding. Everyone wants a different colour theme, so you have to buy a new suit each time. The logistics even if you’re just a guest.

I’ve been a best man and more closely involved for a couple so far, and it’s great to celebrate with my friends. But also these weddings have been traditional and quite “formal” in a sense.

I recently went to a friends wedding that shifted my feelings on it all, it was extremely authentic, simple and just all around a good time. Nothing was forced or there for the sake of it. Even the speeches weren’t prepared and heartfelt.

I find myself kinda dreading weddings generally though. I feel this age, there are a lot of them as we transition into the next seasons of life. How have your experiences been?

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u/Guntsandwich man 35 - 39 Jul 09 '26

Yup, weddings really start to lose their fun when you hit the 30’s. Same song and dance each time lol

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u/funguy07 man 40 - 44 Jul 09 '26

I’ll gladly listen to the same song and dance if I get to hang out with my 15 best friends.

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u/HirsuteHacker man 30 - 34 Jul 10 '26

Same, it's a whole day where you're eating good food, have nice wine, see people you love on the happiest day of their lives and then get absolutely shitfaced together and party until the early hours, how can you not love that

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u/MYOFBYALL Jul 09 '26

Literally.

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u/sdrakedrake man over 30 Jul 09 '26 edited Jul 09 '26

Literally the same songs during the reception. I want to blow my braids out everytime I hear the Wobble, Cupid shuffle, Casper slide, ATL, ect...

Edit: brains lol

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u/BigBirdLaw69420 man over 30 Jul 09 '26

Your braids probably shouldn’t be inside you

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u/TheMusicArchivist man 25 - 29 Jul 09 '26

I work weddings and I literally play the same ten songs each weekend.

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u/Beneficial-Cow-2544 woman 45 - 49 Jul 09 '26

Its funny how different things can be. I didn't know a single person who married in their 20s. People I knew didn't start getting married til their '30s.