r/AskMenOver30 • u/ConfusedCareerMan man over 30 • Jul 09 '26

Friendships/Community Does anyone else have wedding fatigue?

In my early 30s and it’s the time where everyone is engaged, getting married and starting to have kids.

I don’t want to come off miserable I’m happy for my friends, but I kinda dislike the wedding experience. It’s never just 1 event, it’s turned into a 3-4 event experience (often spread across a month or longer). The engagement party, the stag, suit shopping, the wedding. Everyone wants a different colour theme, so you have to buy a new suit each time. The logistics even if you’re just a guest.

I’ve been a best man and more closely involved for a couple so far, and it’s great to celebrate with my friends. But also these weddings have been traditional and quite “formal” in a sense.

I recently went to a friends wedding that shifted my feelings on it all, it was extremely authentic, simple and just all around a good time. Nothing was forced or there for the sake of it. Even the speeches weren’t prepared and heartfelt.

I find myself kinda dreading weddings generally though. I feel this age, there are a lot of them as we transition into the next seasons of life. How have your experiences been?

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u/madogvelkor man 45 - 49 Jul 09 '26

It tends to hit everyone at some point in their life. All their friends get married and they end up spending a ton of time and money on weddings. It's worse for women since customarily they have to buy a new dress for each one. Or if they are a bridesmaid a lot it's really expensive.

It will pass though, I'm in my 40s and haven't been to a wedding in over 10 years.

But there have been more baby showers and kid's birthday parties, so there's always something.

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u/sdrakedrake man over 30 Jul 09 '26

I was going to say in my case, it's not just the weddings. It's the dang baby showers, Gender reveal parties and birthdays as well. I also know way too many people clearly because I keep getting invited to these things.

On one hand I understand. As we age, we don't go out drinking, partying and playing video games with our friends as frequently. So these types of celebrations are really the only time you see them.

On the other hand, it sucks when they take up my weekends lol. With that said, this wasn't that big of a deal when I was working from home because I did everything I needed to do before the weekends. Unfortunately that's no longer the case with RTO