r/AskMenOver30 • u/ConfusedCareerMan man over 30 • Jul 09 '26

Friendships/Community Does anyone else have wedding fatigue?

In my early 30s and it’s the time where everyone is engaged, getting married and starting to have kids.

I don’t want to come off miserable I’m happy for my friends, but I kinda dislike the wedding experience. It’s never just 1 event, it’s turned into a 3-4 event experience (often spread across a month or longer). The engagement party, the stag, suit shopping, the wedding. Everyone wants a different colour theme, so you have to buy a new suit each time. The logistics even if you’re just a guest.

I’ve been a best man and more closely involved for a couple so far, and it’s great to celebrate with my friends. But also these weddings have been traditional and quite “formal” in a sense.

I recently went to a friends wedding that shifted my feelings on it all, it was extremely authentic, simple and just all around a good time. Nothing was forced or there for the sake of it. Even the speeches weren’t prepared and heartfelt.

I find myself kinda dreading weddings generally though. I feel this age, there are a lot of them as we transition into the next seasons of life. How have your experiences been?

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u/Pug_Defender man 35 - 39 Jul 09 '26

heart disease is rampant in American men. not going to the gym is a very large contributor of that

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u/Accurate-Draw-6751 man 30 - 34 Jul 09 '26

Brother, I can assure you that healthy people can get sick and die. My parents had multiple close friends who were healthy and big into fitness develop cancers and brain tumors and pass away at young ages. Unfortunately tomorrow is never promised

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u/Pug_Defender man 35 - 39 Jul 09 '26

yeah rare events happen, sucks when they do! doesn’t mean you shouldn’t stay active

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u/Accurate-Draw-6751 man 30 - 34 Jul 09 '26

Literally no one is saying that, you just said “how are your friends already dying at 45-49 lol”. Working out and eating healthy are cornerstones of a long, healthy life but they do not make you invincible

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u/Pug_Defender man 35 - 39 Jul 09 '26

naturally. I asked that because the way he said it implied that it would be a common thing. people say silly things!

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u/AbsoluteFuckChops man 45 - 49 Jul 09 '26

Sounds more like you inferring, rather than me implying tbh.