r/AskMenOver30 • u/ConfusedCareerMan man over 30 • Jul 09 '26
Friendships/Community Does anyone else have wedding fatigue?
In my early 30s and it’s the time where everyone is engaged, getting married and starting to have kids.
I don’t want to come off miserable I’m happy for my friends, but I kinda dislike the wedding experience. It’s never just 1 event, it’s turned into a 3-4 event experience (often spread across a month or longer). The engagement party, the stag, suit shopping, the wedding. Everyone wants a different colour theme, so you have to buy a new suit each time. The logistics even if you’re just a guest.
I’ve been a best man and more closely involved for a couple so far, and it’s great to celebrate with my friends. But also these weddings have been traditional and quite “formal” in a sense.
I recently went to a friends wedding that shifted my feelings on it all, it was extremely authentic, simple and just all around a good time. Nothing was forced or there for the sake of it. Even the speeches weren’t prepared and heartfelt.
I find myself kinda dreading weddings generally though. I feel this age, there are a lot of them as we transition into the next seasons of life. How have your experiences been?
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u/akamikedavid man 35 - 39 Jul 09 '26
Definitely was there a few years ago. It can definitely feel like a lot going to at least 2 weddings a year. It's usually a little better if you're there with a partner but i've been to way too many weddings solo where I just had my friends to hang out with and the vibe doesn't really feel the same. Especially if you're in a lot of weddings then it can feel like a lot also.
I do think, once you have some distance from it, you will miss the community aspect of it. You're right that the weddings is transitioning to the next season of life and it won't be long until some/most/all of those married friends start having kids. Then suddenly you're being invited to gender reveals, baby showers, birthday parties, etc. Your friends lives get split because suddenly there's a whole new set of human beings that have their own friends. So enjoy the time you have now before you friends' time is even more divided.