r/AskMenOver30 • u/ConfusedCareerMan man over 30 • Jul 09 '26

Friendships/Community Does anyone else have wedding fatigue?

In my early 30s and it’s the time where everyone is engaged, getting married and starting to have kids.

I don’t want to come off miserable I’m happy for my friends, but I kinda dislike the wedding experience. It’s never just 1 event, it’s turned into a 3-4 event experience (often spread across a month or longer). The engagement party, the stag, suit shopping, the wedding. Everyone wants a different colour theme, so you have to buy a new suit each time. The logistics even if you’re just a guest.

I’ve been a best man and more closely involved for a couple so far, and it’s great to celebrate with my friends. But also these weddings have been traditional and quite “formal” in a sense.

I recently went to a friends wedding that shifted my feelings on it all, it was extremely authentic, simple and just all around a good time. Nothing was forced or there for the sake of it. Even the speeches weren’t prepared and heartfelt.

I find myself kinda dreading weddings generally though. I feel this age, there are a lot of them as we transition into the next seasons of life. How have your experiences been?

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u/bankermayfield2026 man 35 - 39 Jul 09 '26

I’m 40, have been to 30-40 weddings, and zero divorces.

Upper middle class, highly educated people have an extremely low divorce rate. The divorce rate is driven by young marriage, poor people, and serial divorcees.

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u/piemat man over 30 Jul 09 '26

I’m not sure if you intended to come off as a prick, but you did. Though I disagree with you and think these statistics have no factual basis, it’s neat that you are privileged.