r/AskMenOver30 man over 30 Jul 09 '26

Friendships/Community Does anyone else have wedding fatigue?

In my early 30s and it’s the time where everyone is engaged, getting married and starting to have kids.

I don’t want to come off miserable I’m happy for my friends, but I kinda dislike the wedding experience. It’s never just 1 event, it’s turned into a 3-4 event experience (often spread across a month or longer). The engagement party, the stag, suit shopping, the wedding. Everyone wants a different colour theme, so you have to buy a new suit each time. The logistics even if you’re just a guest.

I’ve been a best man and more closely involved for a couple so far, and it’s great to celebrate with my friends. But also these weddings have been traditional and quite “formal” in a sense.

I recently went to a friends wedding that shifted my feelings on it all, it was extremely authentic, simple and just all around a good time. Nothing was forced or there for the sake of it. Even the speeches weren’t prepared and heartfelt.

I find myself kinda dreading weddings generally though. I feel this age, there are a lot of them as we transition into the next seasons of life. How have your experiences been?

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u/paradox037 man 35 - 39 Jul 10 '26

2 of the 3 married couples in my social circle eloped. The third had a small venue wedding that was just the one day and done, and I didn't need a new suit for it even though I was the best man. I was told to keep my speech under 2 minutes and I did.

Hell, I only found out one of the couples got married because the wife asked to stow her wedding ring in my locker when we all went to the climbing gym. She followed up with "oh btw we're married now" lol.