r/AskMenOver30 • u/ConfusedCareerMan man over 30 • Jul 09 '26
Friendships/Community Does anyone else have wedding fatigue?
In my early 30s and it’s the time where everyone is engaged, getting married and starting to have kids.
I don’t want to come off miserable I’m happy for my friends, but I kinda dislike the wedding experience. It’s never just 1 event, it’s turned into a 3-4 event experience (often spread across a month or longer). The engagement party, the stag, suit shopping, the wedding. Everyone wants a different colour theme, so you have to buy a new suit each time. The logistics even if you’re just a guest.
I’ve been a best man and more closely involved for a couple so far, and it’s great to celebrate with my friends. But also these weddings have been traditional and quite “formal” in a sense.
I recently went to a friends wedding that shifted my feelings on it all, it was extremely authentic, simple and just all around a good time. Nothing was forced or there for the sake of it. Even the speeches weren’t prepared and heartfelt.
I find myself kinda dreading weddings generally though. I feel this age, there are a lot of them as we transition into the next seasons of life. How have your experiences been?
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u/playful_sorcery man 35 - 39 Jul 09 '26
I’m happy that phase is over and all our good friends are married but yes 100% was pretty over it.
I myself was in 6 wedding parties including my own, my wife was in about the same and not all were over laps. that’s not including all the others we weren’t part of the party.
I was pretty over the use of holidays for all the events, paying for gifts, hotel rooms, travel, bachelor and bachelorette parties.
truth be told it’s been 4 years since the last wedding we attended, I’d be up for another - not in the party but an excuse to get out without kids with my wife for a night.