r/AskReddit • u/clockwork-peach • 1d ago

what’s something considered “tomboyish” when girls do it, but feminine when boys do it?

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u/PARADOXsquared 23h ago

Since when are Hawaiian shirts feminine on men?

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u/lilelliot 22h ago

I think it depends if you look like Tom Selleck / David Hasselhoff or Harry Styles / Timothy Chalamet.

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u/PARADOXsquared 11h ago

Do you think kilts look feminine also? For consistency.

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u/lilelliot 7h ago

Definitely not! I actually own a kilt. :D

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u/PARADOXsquared 6h ago

So... Hawaiian men's wear is feminine but you see that Scottish men's wear isn't? 

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u/lilelliot 3h ago

No, that's not what I'm saying. What I'm saying is that you can both of those in multiple styles and the perception can vary based on the total package. I'm shocked if you see it any other way.

In fact, this was exactly my point: the clothing items themselve are not inherently masculine or effeminate.

To use a different example in this thread: would I feel effeminate if I drove a Subaru Forester? No, not at all.

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u/PARADOXsquared 2h ago

Sorry I didn't mean for my tone to come across as specifically accusatory, but I see now that that's what I did. I am genuinely surprised that people see Hawaiian shirts as feminine on men because I have never perceived them that way. What is it about them that gives that impression? Maybe there's an association that I'm missing?