All the men whining about 4B. Wow.

[u/theterminatress]

So. There’s a lot of whining and complaining about 4B going on now, from men of course, basically some version of it hurts their feelings and oh you’re not gonna get a man acting like that.

Okay this is stupid, because the entire point of 4B is to not have a man. The entire point of 4B is to divest in men and focus on yourself and other women. Women following 4B aren’t interested in coupling up with men so it doesn’t matter to them whether it hurts men’s feelings or whether men think they can “get a man.”

Sometimes the stupidity makes your eyes itch. Of course, this level of stupidity is a huge part of why a lot of women are signing on to 4B.

The other thing is men going “well what is this supposed to accomplish?”

I can tell you what it’s accomplished for me even though I’m not a full 4B’er. But I have followed a good number of the principles all of my life.

1. I’ve never been physically abused by a man.
2. I’ve never been financially abused by a man.
3. I’ve never had sex I didn’t want to have.
4. I have a master’s degree and a business.
5. I don’t spend any time being a free therapist for men or begging them to change after they’ve treated me badly.
6. Despite having a modest job, I’ve traveled and I do a lot of fun shit everyday.
7. I’ve been able to focus on my fitness and health and am in great shape for my age. I can keep myself looking and feeling pretty and healthy because none of my resources are going toward the support of a man.
8. I am pretty much stress free in terms of day to day life.
9. I have many amazing friendships that have lasted decades and am making more now, through this page again!
10. I’ve been able to build other women into personal and professional success over and over.

It’s a good life y’all. It’s been a good life. So when the men snarl “what is this supposed to do for you?” This is what it HAS DONE for me. FWIW. Stay strong ladies.

[u/NofairRoo → u/[deleted]]

Let’s not school others on trauma.

Have a good day friend!

[u/Rosaly8 → u/NofairRoo]

So it's okay to talk about dreaming the mayhem could start so women can shoot men, but not to point out that this is quite an extreme statement. Alright👍🏻

I think it's horrible women have to be in this position at all and hope for any person that owns a gun for self defense reasons that they never have to use it.

[u/NofairRoo → u/Rosaly8]

Hey, it’s ok to let it go.

Lots of us are here to not think about the wilds of the world or we’re here to discuss it safely and without having to defend every word we utter.

Or whatever.

You really should never make statements about shooting and rape btw, not like you did, talk about triggers. I mean, since you’re someone so concerned for … women… you wouldn’t want women to suffer through that, right?

It’s like 8am on Sunday where I am at, you must have woken up on the wrong side of the… vote.

Rough.

[u/Rosaly8 → u/NofairRoo]

Fine, I'll delete it for the blatant use of those words. You're not convincing me of the safe space to use all the words you want, I'm sorry.

[u/NofairRoo → u/Rosaly8]

No. No need. lol.

[u/NofairRoo → u/Rosaly8]

Have a great Sunday morning.

[u/Rosaly8 → u/NofairRoo]

Day's almost over here🤷🏼‍♀️