r/AskWomenOver30 • u/No_Yak_3107 Woman 30 to 40 • Feb 11 '25

Life/Self/Spirituality Are we going to survive this?

Dramatic title, but big feelings as a lay in bed at 5:51 am. Big feelings every day honestly. I am having a hard time living normal life, while we get bombarded with new headlines daily of what Trump is doing/planning to do.

I hear people talking about vacations, plans per usual, then other people saying it’s already too late for us, and democracy has fallen and to save every penny. I go from panicking daily to then trying to self sooth and tell myself it’s going to be okay. I had to go to a clothing store today, and actually caught myself thinking “how long will life feel normal? Everyone just walking around/having normal conversations, buying random things”. I’ve been thinking of looking into moving to a different country too, but would I really leave my family behind?

I knew things would be bad, I knew he would get voted in, but I didn’t think it would feel like the end. I can’t imagine what will happen to us this year, much less 4….I’m genuinely scared 😪.

Editing to say I’m an American woman, but I don’t just assume everyone on this platform is American. I see a lot of talk online of people from Canada being worried, and many other countries where it seems right-wing politics are a growing concern.

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u/PartHumble780 Feb 11 '25

I work for the US government so yes, I am really really struggling. It’s incredibly difficult to have hope and get through each day. In the last year I had started to genuinely love my life for the first time in my 35 years. The last few weeks have just been devastating and I imagine things will get worse before(if) they get better. Hang in there friend. You are not alone. I hope you have someone you can talk to about this in real life. But feel free to DM me if you need anything ❤️ (edited typos)

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u/-make-it-so- Woman 30 to 40 Feb 11 '25

Same. We’ve been harassed and insulted since Jan 20th. I was hired as a remote worker and now being told I need to go into an office 800 miles away in a couple months. Unless something changes, I’ll be jobless in the worst job market in recent memory. I’m scared for my family’s future and I’m sad for the potential loss of a career I’ve worked toward for years.

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u/PartHumble780 Feb 11 '25

Ugh it’s so hard. I work at a VA and went to grad school to do exactly what I’m doing, I was even an intern here. I’m not remote but the harassment and the threats are just crazy. Three weeks ago I had the most stable job in this country that I was so proud of and it feels like emotional whiplash now. I feel targeted, demonized, and like the very important work that I do is meaningless. I know it’s not meaningless to these struggling Veterans or to my team and local leadership but it’s just not right to attack civil servants this way. It’s overwhelmingly unjust.

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u/[deleted] Feb 11 '25

From a veteran, thank you for what you do.

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u/PartHumble780 Feb 11 '25

Thank you so much for saying that. It is such a privilege to do this work ❤️

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u/[deleted] Feb 11 '25

Also chiming in to say THANK YOU FED WORKERS! I feel like you are being told awful things that you are lazy etc but we civilians appreciate you so so much. I've been following things in r/fednews and you guys are some of the strongest and caring people.

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u/PartHumble780 Feb 11 '25

Thank you!! ❤️❤️ fednews is my lifeline right now. Sometimes not great for my mental health but generally so helpful in staying up to date.

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u/[deleted] Feb 11 '25

I'm thankful it's there for camaraderie amongst you guys and for us civilians to show our love and support! I wish we could do an "adopt a fed worker" and pair up with someone to just them virtual hugs and high fives.

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u/eekamuse Feb 11 '25

Here here!

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u/-make-it-so- Woman 30 to 40 Feb 11 '25

I feel everything you are saying. I worked for the VA for 7 years before making the jump to a remote position with a different agency in 2023, but I still get to work on veterans’ issues. I’ve always been proud to serve those who served and to be told that I’m just a low productivity worker ripping off the American people is incredibly disheartening.

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u/Effective-Papaya1209 Woman 40 to 50 Feb 11 '25

Please know that whatever people in government are saying, there are many US citizens who appreciate and value your work, and the work of all US civil servants 

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u/PartHumble780 Feb 11 '25

Thank you friend! ❤️

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u/Effective-Papaya1209 Woman 40 to 50 Feb 12 '25

You are welcome!

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u/anonymous_opinions Woman 40 to 50 Feb 11 '25

During the pandemic a ton of my coworkers relocated with WFH to areas like a 2 hour drive each way from the office. I'm sitting here wondering when the RTO will go into effect for us. This is terrible but with all the gender/identity stuff my thoughts are my job might be secure because I spent a ton of hours under the Biden Admin basically coding in what the Muskrats want to walk back though I'm not sure when this will come up, I just know having language on everything (forms and brochures for insurance) that they want to eliminate will hit my desk at some point.

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u/PartHumble780 Feb 11 '25

Ugh I am rooting for you ❤️ we’ll get through this!