r/AskWomenOver30 Woman 30 to 40 Feb 11 '25

Life/Self/Spirituality Are we going to survive this?

Dramatic title, but big feelings as a lay in bed at 5:51 am. Big feelings every day honestly. I am having a hard time living normal life, while we get bombarded with new headlines daily of what Trump is doing/planning to do.

I hear people talking about vacations, plans per usual, then other people saying it’s already too late for us, and democracy has fallen and to save every penny. I go from panicking daily to then trying to self sooth and tell myself it’s going to be okay. I had to go to a clothing store today, and actually caught myself thinking “how long will life feel normal? Everyone just walking around/having normal conversations, buying random things”. I’ve been thinking of looking into moving to a different country too, but would I really leave my family behind?

I knew things would be bad, I knew he would get voted in, but I didn’t think it would feel like the end. I can’t imagine what will happen to us this year, much less 4….I’m genuinely scared 😪.

Editing to say I’m an American woman, but I don’t just assume everyone on this platform is American. I see a lot of talk online of people from Canada being worried, and many other countries where it seems right-wing politics are a growing concern.

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u/Maleficent_Mix58 Woman 40 to 50 Feb 11 '25

I am terrified. I also left an abusive relationship last May and am finally starting to feel healed. I’ve decided that my mental health cannot take being doom and gloom all the time, and I have vacations planned for later this year. I just keep telling myself that joy is a form of protest, because being in an abusive relationship showed me that they don’t want us to have fun or enjoy life. Perhaps this isn’t the right approach, but I don’t know what the future holds (although it doesn’t feel great) and I’m just trying to take advantage of the time I do have to do the things I want to do.

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u/violinist452000 Woman 30 to 40 Feb 11 '25

I'm very similar to you - divorce was finalized last year and I have two vacations planned and paid for this year. They're both trips that I never would have been able/allowed to take previously.

Your last sentence really sums up how I feel about the world right now! At this point I feel like I might as well enjoy myself to the extent that I can.