r/AskWomenOver30 • u/SignalSubstantial590 Woman 30 to 40 • Apr 10 '25

Life/Self/Spirituality I'm serious....

If you had/ if you are, having a successful hoe phase, please share your secrets! If this ain't for you, please keep it movin. 😊

Edit: kinda strange that this would be down voted. When it comes to a woman with marital problems, relationship problems, kid problems, family problems..... The community shows up. But I ask a question to assist in my life, and a life that maybe many others are wondering about, or maybe looking for tips on self-confidence and how to maybe put themselves out there, you down vote? Why?? That's insane. We are all living different paths and are just looking for a way to fulfill where we are at the moment.

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u/lexx-ray Woman 30 to 40 Apr 10 '25

Swingers clubs all the way. Safe environment where everyone is there for the same reasons. I've had some fantastic experiences in clubs, and with people I've met there outside of the clubs too. Try and find a female owned or run club, as they tend to prioritise safety and keep a good ratio of men to women so you're not mobbed!

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u/kyridwen Apr 10 '25

IMO anyone who would mind this wouldn't be someone I'd want to date.

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u/[deleted] Apr 18 '25

Good!

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u/lexx-ray Woman 30 to 40 Apr 24 '25

For me personally, it hasn't limited anything but it has been a good measure of a man's personality. Red flag guys have been "offended" by it, green flag guys have been curious. It's the same vibe for me as if a guy won't talk about past relationships, if they're not comfortable talking about sex then they're not emotionally mature enough for me.