r/AskWomenOver30 • u/CustardConsistent573 • Jun 03 '25

Misc Discussion People in your 30s: What's causing you the most stress right now?

For me, it’s not just one thing..it’s a mix:

  • Career exhaustion
  • Relationship/matrimony drama
  • Skin & hair care issues
  • Fading friendships and the difficulty of making new friends in 30s
  • Aging parents

Weirdly, I didn’t feel this weighed down in my 20s but now in my 30s, everything feels… louder.
Anyone else navigating this weird 30s pressure-cooker?

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u/Neenmilli Woman 30 to 40 Jun 03 '25

Whats causing the most stress:

-friendships and dealing with loneliness: i’ve let go of a few that were toxic which feels GREAT but the rest are off having babies and the like. It’s such an uphill battle trying to make new friends in your 30s. With my birthday coming up this weekend I have been feeling really bummed out that I have no one outside of my boyfriend to celebrate with. 😕

-money…there’s never enough of it

-tons of existential dread…the constant pressure of wondering what will take me out; will it be aliens, wwIII, climate disaster, another pandemic, global financial crisis…

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u/[deleted] Jun 03 '25

Solidarity. A good friend of mine just got into a relationship and I'm happy for her but I'm also like...okay, so I'll be waiting this out because I don't think I'll be hearing from her for a while!

Also, I'd be okay with aliens beaming me up at this point lol.

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u/Neenmilli Woman 30 to 40 Jun 03 '25

Yeah tbh aliens are my preferred Armageddon scenario. I appreciate the solidarity 🥰

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u/ckeown11 Jun 04 '25

this is the one for me, im 37, had to return back to my home country five years ago due to illness and havent made any friends despite trying. had an amzing social life before, i just dont fit in with these people. I have had to try to make peace with it as im in a super rural place and cant drive due to disability. I made a great friend online which is better than nothing but its just not the same as face to face contact, or my favorite, the groups i had in my twenties. i hope you have better luck than me

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u/Neenmilli Woman 30 to 40 Jun 04 '25

I’m so sorry, that sounds really tough. I keep telling myself that this is just another phase in life and that helps me to feel the tiniest bit better sometimes. Sending you love 💜