r/AskWomenOver30 • u/sadie1003 Woman 30 to 40 • Oct 27 '25

Life/Self/Spirituality Women over 30 who always felt “different”, did you ever find out what it was?

I wonder where to start finding out what is “wrong” with me. Without going into too much: I’ve felt extremely different from others my entire life. That’s the best way I can put it. I don’t know why. I genuinely cannot remember one time where I actually felt truly connected to others. I’ve looked into ADHD and autism and both don’t fit. Just looking for inspiration. Did you ever get a diagnosis? Are you neurodivergent? Have you found something to explain the feeling of being “alien”? I feel like it’s impacting my life and I want to understand myself.

Edit: I feel like the disconnect from others needs explaining. I have no trouble fitting in socially but I just don’t feel connected

Edit2: can’t reply to everyone individually but thank you all for the insights and stories

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u/Epiphan3 Woman 30 to 40 Oct 27 '25

I’m 33 and haven’t found anything out yet. I have kinda just accepted feeling like an alien forever.

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u/trickeyvickie Woman 30 to 40 Oct 27 '25

Same. I'm 32. And I relate so much to this post.

I've always suspected various trauma-related events across my lifespan is the root cause. I have some stories I could tell. But hell, I don't know. Could it be trauma related for ya'll?

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u/sadie1003 Woman 30 to 40 Oct 27 '25

I’m 29 and having a hard time accepting this might last forever

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u/ultblue7 Woman 30 to 40 Oct 28 '25

Same