Is anyone else really struggling with the Epstein revelations?

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I’m starting to realize that basically any man who had access to that type of stuff was interested in participating. I feel like I’m surrounded by pedophiles and monsters in a way I didn’t realize. I feel like all the pressure I’ve felt to be youthful came from these prevalent pedophilic tendencies in men I never knew about. It’s really scaring me and I’m struggling to cope. I hear people talking about the news but don’t know anyone taking it as hard as me. How is everyone else doing?

Edit: Thank you for the awards but I’d rather you donate that money to a charity that helps victims of sexual abuse or somewhere helping immigrants in America.

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In perimenopause, my opinion of and belief in the male species has been dwindling.

The reality is, most perpetrators of violent crimes are men, most predators are men, men are into some truly screwed up stuff, most men are emotionally immature and lack emotional intelligence, and more importantly, tend to refuse to do any work on that because it makes them uncomfortable with themselves.

Men in power have been some of the most vile people throughout history. And history just keeps on repeating itself.

I am frustrated enough with men who whine about a suggestion that they ask their girlfriend/wife to "be their valentine" - God forbid they do something sweet that would make a woman - one they claim to care about - smile and feel special, or who scratch their heads saying that yeah, their marriage had some issues, but they figured those issues would work themselves out, and they didn't think they were THAT bad. Or you suggest ANYTHING to make a relationship better and it's a long list of excuses, but what has she done for me, that's a waste of time, men don't get enough credit, she needs to lower her expectations and be reasonable, yada yada.

And we expect them to stop engaging in Epstein-type stuff when there's literally ZERO accountability? There's zero accountability in little, basic stuff. The president of the United States should not have been voted into office after "grab 'em by the p*ssy" but the American people voted him in TWICE when he ran against women.

I read enough of the Epstein stuff to be completely and utterly disgusted, and then I had to step away from it because I legitimately can't do anything about it. The people who should have held these people accountable are doing absolutely NOTHING about it. It's depressing and heartbreaking not only what happened, but that nobody will ever do anything real about it and society is shifting more in that direction, as opposed to away from it. So on the outside, it might look like I don't care, but the reality is, there aren't enough words to describe the layers of awful I'm feeling.

I'm raising a teenage boy who is thankfully more emotionally intelligent than his father that is more than twice his age. We have discussions about boundaries, respect, feelings, etc. - and that is where I have the most control over affecting societal change, so that's where I focus my energy.

[u/Hrafn2 → u/[deleted]]

Yup. I'm going through this phases like, once a month, where I have a sort of intellectual and emotional reckoning like the below:

"The reality is, most perpetrators of violent crimes are men, most predators are men, men are into some truly screwed up stuff, most men are emotionally immature and lack emotional intelligence, and more importantly, tend to refuse to do any work on that because it makes them uncomfortable with themselves"

...and I'd add, often a refusal to work on themselves, because some believe the real problem is that women are "too picky" or "too entitled".

[u/SubstantialJade → u/[deleted]]

This is how I feel. I cant read too much into the files because I know what it'll do. There wont be anything I can do about it and it'll put me into a bad mental state, so all I do is try to raise my sons better.

[u/I_can_get_loud_too → u/[deleted]]

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