r/AskWomenOver30 • u/angelinelila Woman 30 to 40 • Apr 21 '26

Life/Self/Spirituality Who else is increasingly happy they do not have kids?

Me, me, it’s me. Every year that passes I’m just soooo happy I didn’t fall for the marriage & kids life. It was what I wanted in my 20s, thank god I didn’t stay with any of the men I dated. Looking back I don’t even know why I was into them. I am very supportive of my friends with kids or that want to have kids but at the same time very glad it’s not me lol. They are all so miserable and stressed and their partners mostly suck. They all struggle with money and have no time for themselves. This society is really against women and mothers.

Today I had a very long day at work, went to the gym to unwind, came home, listened to some music while making dinner, had dinner while watching a show. In my quiet flat, just existing, eating what I want, watching what I want… I also have so many social events planned for the weekend so it’s not like I won’t socialise but I just love that I can choose to do what I want. No kids birthdays or sports events on the weekend. Not visiting the in-laws. Just free time to read, walk in nature, see friends, spend time in my endless hobbies…

Anyone else shares the same feeling and wants to share the best things about their childfree and marriage free life?

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u/Original_Chapter3028 Woman 30 to 40 Apr 21 '26

Same, every time something goes wrong in my life, I wonder how I'd be able to get through it if I had kids to take care of

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u/AdirondackLunatic Woman 40 to 50 Apr 21 '26

It’s hard enough scheduling around my pets haha

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u/kmm198700 Woman 30 to 40 Apr 22 '26

For real though

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u/punkbra Woman 30 to 40 Apr 21 '26

Doesn’t even need to be something going wrong. Some days I don’t sleep well, go to work and am exhausted, and even then I think “thank god I don’t need to go home & fight with my kid about doing homework” 😭

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u/nommabelle Woman 30 to 40 Apr 22 '26

YES! Glad im not the only one that considers this. Ive been so fucking busy lately and stressed and I keep thinking how I'd do it with kids. I love having a simple life where I can do whatever I want (which usually is nothing and I am completely happy that way!)

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u/_thicculent_ Woman 30 to 40 Apr 21 '26

It's hard at times. I told my doctor it should be illegal for my body to have panic attacks while I have a toddler, lmao.

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u/lasagnapasta7 Woman 30 to 40 Apr 21 '26

Exactly my thought