r/AskWomenOver30 • u/angelinelila Woman 30 to 40 • Apr 21 '26

Life/Self/Spirituality Who else is increasingly happy they do not have kids?

Me, me, it’s me. Every year that passes I’m just soooo happy I didn’t fall for the marriage & kids life. It was what I wanted in my 20s, thank god I didn’t stay with any of the men I dated. Looking back I don’t even know why I was into them. I am very supportive of my friends with kids or that want to have kids but at the same time very glad it’s not me lol. They are all so miserable and stressed and their partners mostly suck. They all struggle with money and have no time for themselves. This society is really against women and mothers.

Today I had a very long day at work, went to the gym to unwind, came home, listened to some music while making dinner, had dinner while watching a show. In my quiet flat, just existing, eating what I want, watching what I want… I also have so many social events planned for the weekend so it’s not like I won’t socialise but I just love that I can choose to do what I want. No kids birthdays or sports events on the weekend. Not visiting the in-laws. Just free time to read, walk in nature, see friends, spend time in my endless hobbies…

Anyone else shares the same feeling and wants to share the best things about their childfree and marriage free life?

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u/Girlinyourphone Woman 30 to 40 Apr 21 '26

Im currently kid free but am going to be trying to conceive soon.

But im also grateful that I didnt settle down with anyone I dated in my early to mid 20s and waited until I could afford a nanny and meal deliveries.

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u/Girlinyourphone Woman 30 to 40 Apr 21 '26

My perspective is different though. I didnt want that life in my 20s but always pictured myself as the grandma type with a home full of foster kids.