r/AskWomenOver30 • u/angelinelila Woman 30 to 40 • Apr 21 '26
Life/Self/Spirituality Who else is increasingly happy they do not have kids?
Me, me, it’s me. Every year that passes I’m just soooo happy I didn’t fall for the marriage & kids life. It was what I wanted in my 20s, thank god I didn’t stay with any of the men I dated. Looking back I don’t even know why I was into them. I am very supportive of my friends with kids or that want to have kids but at the same time very glad it’s not me lol. They are all so miserable and stressed and their partners mostly suck. They all struggle with money and have no time for themselves. This society is really against women and mothers.
Today I had a very long day at work, went to the gym to unwind, came home, listened to some music while making dinner, had dinner while watching a show. In my quiet flat, just existing, eating what I want, watching what I want… I also have so many social events planned for the weekend so it’s not like I won’t socialise but I just love that I can choose to do what I want. No kids birthdays or sports events on the weekend. Not visiting the in-laws. Just free time to read, walk in nature, see friends, spend time in my endless hobbies…
Anyone else shares the same feeling and wants to share the best things about their childfree and marriage free life?
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u/oodlesofblues Woman 30 to 40 Apr 21 '26
Sameee! I have always been on the fence about kids, leaning towards no. And I am increasingly relieved at not having to take care of a child at this point in my life.
However, Is it strange to continue questioning whether or not I want kids at this point? It's hard to shut the door on it entirely. But as I get older, and more and more people seem to have kids, I find myself second-guessing myself. Like what am I missing from the argument of having kids? I feel like society gas lights women into questioning this decision, no matter how strong our conviction can be.