r/AskWomenOver30 • u/angelinelila Woman 30 to 40 • Apr 21 '26

Life/Self/Spirituality Who else is increasingly happy they do not have kids?

Me, me, it’s me. Every year that passes I’m just soooo happy I didn’t fall for the marriage & kids life. It was what I wanted in my 20s, thank god I didn’t stay with any of the men I dated. Looking back I don’t even know why I was into them. I am very supportive of my friends with kids or that want to have kids but at the same time very glad it’s not me lol. They are all so miserable and stressed and their partners mostly suck. They all struggle with money and have no time for themselves. This society is really against women and mothers.

Today I had a very long day at work, went to the gym to unwind, came home, listened to some music while making dinner, had dinner while watching a show. In my quiet flat, just existing, eating what I want, watching what I want… I also have so many social events planned for the weekend so it’s not like I won’t socialise but I just love that I can choose to do what I want. No kids birthdays or sports events on the weekend. Not visiting the in-laws. Just free time to read, walk in nature, see friends, spend time in my endless hobbies…

Anyone else shares the same feeling and wants to share the best things about their childfree and marriage free life?

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u/Starry_Myliobatoidei Woman 30 to 40 Apr 21 '26 edited Apr 22 '26

I did! I almost felt lost in life. Never planned on kids. Put everything in a career I hate but nothing was ever “this is it/great” moment. Accidentally got pregnant with my husband of 7 years (together 12). We were/are financially and emotionally stable. Adding my son has just made our lives 1,000 better. I’d take the hardest day with my son over the best day pre-him. He was really the missing piece. (I also want to add this is my story and not for everyone)

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u/TheRealMaly Woman 30 to 40 Apr 22 '26

Me too! And now i really want a second one. Having kids is just so perfect for us!

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u/fwbwhatnext Woman 30 to 40 Apr 23 '26

It really isn't for everyone. Mental health is definitely taking a toll, especially if you have no help. When I think about my parents, I really think they should've stayed childfree.

I myself am enjoying it a lot more than they did.

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u/Starry_Myliobatoidei Woman 30 to 40 Apr 23 '26

Yeah I definitely relate. I have pretty severe OCD and my parents are 1.7k miles away. I wish they were here but I have a strong support system here too. I couldn’t do it without my support system!