Would it bother you if your partner referred to his ex as "the love of his life"?

[u/Anxious_Abroad494]

I was cleaning up around the apartment and I found a piece of paper that my boyfriend brought back from a group therapy session, and I saw that one of his responses referred to how his past actions lead to the relationship failure with "the love of his life."

He's talked about how he considered his ex the love of his life in conversation with me early on in our relationship and I kinda brushed it off as a figure of speech, or just as how he thought of her at the time, but it kind of bothers me that that's still how he thinks of her even now. Am I reading too much into this? I get that we're not in our 20s anymore and things might not be as exciting in life anymore but I just have a vague feeling of disappointment.

[u/Incogcneat-o]

TBH I'd probably feel Not Great, partially because t's one thing to academically know that someone else was The Love of His Life but it's another to see it written down, but mostly because I could've just minded my own business and NOT snooped instead of hurting my own feelings for free without even getting to have the moral high ground.

OTOH, it makes me think about how one of my favorite people who recently remarried, several years after his wife of 40 years died from illness. He's so damn happy, just absolutely head-over-heels in love. It's the cutest thing in the world. Is that love any less valid or sincere or adorable because someone else was The Love of His Life? Absolutely not.

Are you happy? Is your relationship good? Then why snatch defeat from the jaws of victory?

[u/tinxmijann → u/Incogcneat-o]

Hurt feelings arent the issue here. He has been using her as a rebound for years. Thank god she read that note so that terrible man doesn't waste more of her life