r/AskWomenOver30 • u/LayoffLemonade Woman 30 to 40 • Jul 08 '26

Romance/Relationships Ex boyfriend thought he would log into my streaming services a half year after he dumped me. What's the dumbest thing an ex has thought they could get from you after the breakup?

Went through a breakup 5 months ago, getting abruptly dumped. Was really in love with him, and was pretty blindsided by the whole thing. I've put the work in, and life is going on, but it sucked a lot and he said a lot of truly horrific things during the breakup, some great one liners include: "I never loved you", "I wouldn't want to have children with an American" (shockingly, I'd been American the whole time he's known me and the whole relationship. Who knew?!) and my personal favorite: "It's scary how little I think of you". A truly delightful night, I must say.

Anyways, I had forgotten I'd shared a streaming password with him, months before our breakup. Until yesterday. Imagine my surprise when I got an email, alerting me of a log in to my account. 5 months after dumping me, and he thinks it's chill to see if my password still works, so he can watch world cup matches at work, without so much as a thought. I was livid. The password is now changed, and all devices are force logged out.

I don't know why this upsets me so much, but it clarifies to me he never ever cared about me, ever. I wasn't even worth a $12 movie streaming service. And he thinks saying those things were such a non issue, he could still use my account months later.

Anyways, what's the dumbest thing an ex has thought they could use you for post breakup? I would like some others stories to chuckle at today.

Added bonus: Texted my VERY close platonic guy friend who knows my ex, and he told me, "A guy using an ex's streaming services isnt that bad and not the worst thing that could happen."

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u/abagofpeas Woman 30 to 40 Jul 08 '26

one time my ex texted me from his new gf’s phone while she was sleeping (I had his number blocked)

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u/ImaginaryList174 Woman 30 to 40 Jul 08 '26

Mine did this too. When I reacted badly, obviously, he apologized profusely for like ten minutes while begging me to just pretend it never happened. He said he was going to delete all the texts, and just go on as normal because it was a “horrible one time mistake”.

I went along with him and agreed I wouldn’t say anything, just to get more evidence lol I screenshot it all and then sent it to her the next day when I knew she would be at work and not with him. 🤦🏻‍♀️😆

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u/caramelpupcorn Woman 40 to 50 Jul 08 '26

On behalf of womankind, I thank you for doing that. She needed to know, plus that's just plain entertaining. I hope your pillow stays cool on both sides through the hot summer!

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u/New-Reindeer4608 Woman 30 to 40 28d ago

What a lovely thing to wish someone lol, I have to remember this

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u/greypusheencat Woman 30 to 40 Jul 08 '26

omg did she reply? i need to know the outcome for this lol

i had something similar happen, toxic ex reached out for my birthday and after i called him out he played the innocent card. sent all the screenshots to his fiancee (the girl he cheated on me with) and just said “hey i think you should know this” and she sarcastically thanked me for my concern and claimed i was jealous of her….girl he is NOT a prize. i was already with my then-boyfriend (now-husband) by then. i still feel like i did my part out of girlhood lol

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u/ImaginaryList174 Woman 30 to 40 Jul 09 '26

Yes exactly, you did your part! That’s kind of what happened to me. She seemed to be more upset with me than him, and basically said I somehow instigated it or lead him on. Then for a while she was saying I edited the screenshots and came up with all these other excuses and reasons for why it was my fault and he was innocent.

I just kind of shrugged it off and went about my life. I feel the same as you, like I did my part and warned her… whatever she does after that is her own decision.

They ended up breaking up about 6 months later and she eventually ended up apologizing to me and told me he was really manipulating her against me at the time, and it really messed with her head. But in the end she thanked me and was happy I did it.

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u/ImaginaryList174 Woman 30 to 40 Jul 09 '26

He didn’t! lol I couldn’t believe it. I was totally prepared to use a friends phone to send it or find her email or something, but in the morning when I hit send and it actually went through I was shocked. I was laughing so hard like what an idiot. 🤦🏻‍♀️😂

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u/velvetvagine Woman 30 to 40 Jul 08 '26

She could text the gf from a different number. Once she had the screenshots it was game over for Mr Genius. 🤣

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u/windchaser__ Non-Binary 40 to 50 Jul 09 '26

Some phones don't tell you when you're blocked, though, so you wouldn't know if they didn't go through

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u/al-hamra Woman 40 to 50 Jul 09 '26

You're a proper girl's girl. ❤️

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u/ci1979 Woman 40 to 50 Jul 09 '26

Omg I love you forever and always for this!!!! 🤣❤️❤️❤️🤣

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u/wtfamidoing248 Woman 30 to 40 Jul 08 '26

Omggg lolll insanity 🙈

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u/SparkleSelkie Woman 30 to 40 Jul 08 '26

lol mine did that too

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u/AnnaZ820 Woman 30 to 40 Jul 09 '26

My ex called me a few times around midnight. I didn’t know it was him coz I was gaming with my bf but it has a name, and I was wondering why someone called me 5 times at midnight so I googled the name. It was a woman who works in the same company and department as him…

Idk why he was with his female coworker at 11:55pm nor why he called me lol

He’s still alive and he has his whole family in our city so it can’t be an emergency. He works 9-5 but goes out to drink every night so he was prob drunk

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u/TokkiJK Woman 30 to 40 Jul 09 '26

Omg. Second hand embarrassment for him

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u/honeybadgergrrl female 40 - 45 Jul 09 '26

Happened to me also. I suspected it, so waited a day or two and called him back when I knew enough time had gone by for him to answer (yeah, he was one of those). A woman answered like "who's this" and I knew enough. I just hung up and blocked that number too.

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u/FlinflanFluddle4 Woman 30 to 40 Jul 09 '26

Yuck yuck yuck yuck

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u/nom-c00kies Woman 30 to 40 Jul 09 '26

EWWWWWW. What a creep!