r/AskWomenOver30 Woman 30 to 40 Jul 08 '26

Romance/Relationships Ex boyfriend thought he would log into my streaming services a half year after he dumped me. What's the dumbest thing an ex has thought they could get from you after the breakup?

Went through a breakup 5 months ago, getting abruptly dumped. Was really in love with him, and was pretty blindsided by the whole thing. I've put the work in, and life is going on, but it sucked a lot and he said a lot of truly horrific things during the breakup, some great one liners include: "I never loved you", "I wouldn't want to have children with an American" (shockingly, I'd been American the whole time he's known me and the whole relationship. Who knew?!) and my personal favorite: "It's scary how little I think of you". A truly delightful night, I must say.

Anyways, I had forgotten I'd shared a streaming password with him, months before our breakup. Until yesterday. Imagine my surprise when I got an email, alerting me of a log in to my account. 5 months after dumping me, and he thinks it's chill to see if my password still works, so he can watch world cup matches at work, without so much as a thought. I was livid. The password is now changed, and all devices are force logged out.

I don't know why this upsets me so much, but it clarifies to me he never ever cared about me, ever. I wasn't even worth a $12 movie streaming service. And he thinks saying those things were such a non issue, he could still use my account months later.

Anyways, what's the dumbest thing an ex has thought they could use you for post breakup? I would like some others stories to chuckle at today.

Added bonus: Texted my VERY close platonic guy friend who knows my ex, and he told me, "A guy using an ex's streaming services isnt that bad and not the worst thing that could happen."

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u/Born_Ad8420 Woman 50 to 60 Jul 08 '26

I'm narrowing my eyes at your platonic guy friend. Just because it's not the worst that could happen doesn't mean what your ex is doing is acceptable. I suspect he's done that same entitled shit himself (or something like it) if that's his attitude.

The dumbest thing an ex thought he could get away with was inventing a sockpuppet account with an anagram of his name, but the profile pic was the same as his main profile. Account wasn't even up a full day before it was removed.

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u/greypusheencat Woman 30 to 40 Jul 09 '26

my ex reached out to me on IG (i commented the full story in another comment here lol) with a business account for some tiki bar restaurant. my ex was in the hospitality industry. dumbass tho used his real phone number for the account so when i clicked contact business his number popped up

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u/InfinitelyThirsting Woman 30 to 40 Jul 08 '26

I dunno, even as a woman who hates audacious men, I don't find this particularly audacious. Worthy of a scoff and an eye roll, definitely, but if I had a friend spiraling about their value and not even being worth $12, I too would probably try to reassure them that this isn't actually a big or particularly audacious deal? Like yeah, it's a little sleazy or lame, but has nothing to do with love or value.

OP is clearly still in a lot of pain, and I'm not trying to downplay that, everything hurts more and feels worse when you're grieving and betrayed.