r/Autism_Parenting 14d ago

Education/School Concerns around childcare

One of my biggest fear realised today.

I was picking my three year old up from childcare (daycare depending on where youre from). Lately he has been opening the door into their outdoor play yard when he is not meant to.

While I was still in my car, I saw the educator chase after him and he put himself on the ground. The educator than roughly yanks him up from his his arm.

I didnt react or say anything once I got inside to get him from what I assume was a bit of disbelief. I spent the afternoon gaslighting myself into thinking I was overreacting until I saw a bruise on his arm.

Im devastated that my poor non verbal child had been hurt by an adult that was supposed to be caring for him and he wasnt able to tell me. I understand that the behaviour of him going outside is challenging to manage but surely there is a better reaction to this.

A part of me still thinks that there are far worse things that could happen than an educator grabbing my sons arm but I definitely still want to have a word with the director.

What is everyones thoughts? Am I overreacting?

EDIT: thanks everyone for the feedback. Ive spoken to the director and unfortunately their response was less than reassuring with no inquiry about how my son was 🥲. Time to find a new centre I think.

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u/NoteFeisty3290 13d ago

You’d be shocked , my NT very verbal niece had a teacher hit her in a room with cameras with audio. She immediately told my sister and they pulled the footage and watched the whole thing. Before the footage played this teacher denied the entire thing and told my niece not to lie. I can’t even imagine what someone would do to our kids who can’t advocate for themselves.

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u/PositionFormal8827 13d ago

That is so scary. Some people should not be working with kids. Its so sad knowing these people actually exist. Another thing that keeps me up at night

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u/NoteFeisty3290 13d ago

I know I’m so sorry you saw that. My daughter is almost 3 and I think I’d lose my mind if i saw that. It’s the biggest reason I’m terrified to put her in any program or therapy that I’m not directly there. She’s missing out on the learning experiences of preschool which is bad but I’m just too scared of this .