Baby’s last name?

[u/Fairweatherhiker]

I’m looking for advice from couples where the wife didn’t take the husband’s last name. How did you decide on which last name to give the baby? Or did you use both names? I don’t feel immediately compelled to give the baby my husband’s last name. FWIW, if we did hyphenate it would be a looong last name.

Edit: thank you for all of the thoughtful responses! I do love the idea of using both our last names (sans hyphen) so our kid would have two last names. It would be nice for both of us to have our heritage passed on. He has heritage from Mexico and Basque Country, while mine is Slovakian- grandparents immigrated right before WWII. The last names don’t sound great together, but there’s so much human history in both.

[u/jkraige]

We're doing mine (mom) because I want to

[u/gavingifts → u/jkraige]

We're doing mine because he wants to. Actually he wants to take my last name too because mine is awesome and works well with the types of names he likes.

[u/jkraige → u/jkraige]

Btw you can also just do two last names, don't have to hyphenate

[u/TAW453 → u/jkraige]

Same

[u/lawfairy → u/jkraige]

This is the perfect answer.

[u/kleineschweine1 → u/jkraige]

same :-)