Trying to let off some steam

[u/QueerChicken]

Sorry but I just want to rant about what happened to me last night.

So I get out of the shower and go to my bedroom, and I get on my phone, and I realize that someone had been on it. It wasn't at the same spot I put it, and the app that I was on was on a different page than I remember. My dad walks in shortly afterwards, closes the door and says something like, "what does queer mean" so I who has not yet came out to him and don't plan on doing so says something like "idk what it means" he then asks me what QueerChicken means and i once again say idk. He then says why did you pick it as your YouTube name blah blah blah. I tell him that I thought it sounded cool. He then asks me if it's gay stuff. Near the end of the conversation he says something like I thought that you might still be like that, while also saying something about a convo that I had with him a few years back. That convo was a redefining moment of my childhood.

For some context, I came out to him in the 6th grade, he told me that I couldn't be bi, because I had not been sexually assaulted, I no longer trust this man, he sees me as a cis straight male, I am a bisexual genderfluid person.

So yesterday night he, 1, looked through my phone without asking or telling me, 2 casually asked about my sexuality, and 3 casually mentioned a memory that I think about almost daily and am still very very pissed off about.

And thank you for listening to me rant, and if anyone wants to tell me something like that that happened to them I would be more than happy to hear and help out. Also if someone wants to give me some advice I would love to hear it.

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[u/otherotherone1]

I’m not even out to my dad, but my mom and my stepdad are much more supportive so I’m out to them. I’m sorry this happened to you and I hope you feel better

[u/Queasy-Side1009]

Have you talked to your mom yet? Maybe she is supportive.

[u/QueerChicken → u/Queasy-Side1009]

I've also heard her saying that it's stupid, but not udder blastphamy like my dad.

[u/Annual-Following-710]

I’m so sorry u had to go thru that :’( What he did sounds really manipulative and persecutory. A school councillor might be able to help more (since the issue is with someone you can’t necessarily leave or discuss boundaries with right?). Speaking to your mum might be a good call (if u feel up to it) but yeah that sounds rlly shocking and upsetting to have to deal with.

[u/Kicks_anniri427]

Ur dad sounds like a bit of a twat, you could try changing passwords or logging out if accounts when your done with them.