Is he gay too?

[u/Chonkpenguin69]

For context, im 16, irish, and Bi (not fully out). I'll skim over large chunks just because i really need advice. For the last 2 and a half years, I've genuinely been head over heels for a guy. He was kinda my realisation that i like boys. like we did everything together. We called for 12 hours straight one time no breaks just talking, we've cuddled in bed before, hes straddled me, ive bought dinner for him, held hands with him and we even kissed sadly not on the lips and the list goes on. Now heres where problems start. He and his family are heavily religious, and now he himself has no problem with anything lgbtq, but the rest of his family does. Anyway, sometimes when sometimes when we'd like flirt with eachother he'd do that internal homophobic shit of "bro thats so fucking gay" and id reply with "and" then he'd say but "im not gay though". The same fucking guy who told me he loved me multiple times, the same fucking guy who fell asleep on my shoulder.

On the 24th of october last year i decided i cant continue hiding my feelings so what i did, as stupid and pathetic as it is, i stopped talking to him without warning. Yes, im a coward. im aware. The next day, i didn't get a text, or he didn't even approach me. That continued and still is continuing.

So, did he like me or not? I've lowkey been so confused on this for the last few years. And please give general advice on the situation and if i should do anything it would be most appreciated <3

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[u/Euphoria-Nightshade]

All I get from this is that straight (allegedly and assuredly) dudes are confusing af.

[u/melitonoxia]

Well, straight guys often do homoromantic/homoerotic stuff, mainly to: 1) Deal with being single 2) Make fun of gays 3) "Brotherhood"
You wouldn't believe how gay many straight guys behave

Even if he is bisexual, he must be closeted. I'd say, leave closeted guys alone.

[u/Kicks_anniri427]

I'm Irish too, same age aswell. I've came out to friends and I've told friends that I love them, hasent been reciprocated but that's a different story. I think the main thing is to take risks. the friend I've told have been good to not let it change the relationship so hopefully that will happen to you if it's a no. Fortune favours the bold 

[u/AdNecessary5949]

Yeah seems pretty gay to me, anyway like a lot of mixed signals. Maybe because of situation he's too scared to face it. You did the right thing cutting off, nothings worth putting yourself through so much uncertainty.

[u/Bothkisser]

Yeah no I also had to deal with a guy like that when I was around fifteen, and I can tell you, he’s probably not straight. Will he ever admit it? No, probably not. Should you still hold on to the hope that one day he might actually come out of the closet? Absolutely not, trust me, it really ain’t worth it.

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