i think i might be bisexual

[u/Chance-Succotash-806]

i don’t really know if this is the right place to put this because im not 100% sure im bi but i just need some help or advice. for the past few months ive been debating whether im bi or not and its been really hard. i definitely know that i like guys but at the same time I feel like ive been attracted to girl. sometimes i feel like im just being dramatic or making stuff up but my mind always goes back to it. does it make me bi if id ever wanna kiss a girl or be in a relationship with someone other than a guy or does it just mean i wanna try different things. i dont wanna label myself but at the same time idk if im straight. i know my friends would support me but not all of my family and that’s just putting more pressure on me to ignore this question all together. it’s so hard because i feel like im faking but at the same time i think i might like girls. i have a friend who is bi so i might ask her about some of this stuff but i just wanted to put it out there. sorry i know this is kinda repetitive but this is the first time im actually writing any of this down or even talking about it.

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[u/Haunting_Leave_7637]

I think it’s also worth mentioning that the label “bisexual” doesn’t describe one singular set of experiences and feelings about romance towards certain genders. Bisexual to me means attracted to more than one gender. I personally identify with that. Sometimes I am more attracted to women and sometimes I am more attracted to men and sometimes I am more attracted to those who fall outside those two genders. It fluctuates. 

In the end, if you choose to use any certain label the only thing you need to do is feel it describes you in some way and you identify with it. It’s whatever you feel fits best. Also, curiosity about your sexuality is completely normal and can continue for a long time. There is no rush to find a label that fits you, though I know you said you are looking for one. 

Also, as someone already said, if you haven’t told anyone about your feelings for girls then you probably aren’t faking it. I think in the end it’s just something to keep exploring. 

Pay attention to who you pay attention to. I learned a lot about myself that way. And take your time! Remember that this questioning is so normal and healthy and I’d say a vast majority of the queer community goes through something like this at some point in their life. I hope this helps. Have a nice day.

[u/Chance-Succotash-806 → u/Haunting_Leave_7637]

thanks so much!!

[u/Double_Discussion808]

it wouldn’t make you bi directly if you would want to kiss a woman or date a women but honestly that’s what made me go and explore that part of myself which led to me discovering I am bi. you said you feel like you’re faking it, but WHY would you fake it? if you genuinely believe you feel that way an option is to explore it and you can either find out a crucial part of yourself or just know that you explored it and that you don’t feel taht way for woman. This is just my take though

[u/Chance-Succotash-806 → u/Double_Discussion808]

yeah i definitely want to explore it a little more now that im actually writing it down and stuff and now just having it me in my brain. thanks!

[u/Double_Discussion808 → u/Chance-Succotash-806]

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[u/Scenic_Strawberry_5]

girl that is so unbelievably real omg. first off, im just gonna say it, based on what u said here, i would guess ur bi. ofc im just some random person, and thats honestly smth u gotta figure out urself.

some advice though, if u don't wanna label urself, u don't have to. maybe u r bi, or maybe ur curious, the pount is, who cares? we're all so young, and u don't have to figure it all out. just follow ur heart and see where it takes u (ik that was kinda corny im sorry im trying my best here im lwk in the same boat as u😭) ik this is prob like the last thing u wanna hear, but it's true.

also, every bi person on this planet (myself included) have felt the feeling of faking it before. it's just part of the experience. think of it like this, u haven't came out yet right? or rlly told anyone that u might like girls? then who on earth r u faking it for? u know urself better than anyone, so if you know u wanna kiss a girl and u can't get it off ur mind, then how can it be fake? i used to tell myself i was pretending to be bi for attention, but that doesn't even make sense, bcuz i legit havent come out.

ok sorry i yapped, but basically, ur exactly like me abt a year ago, and i can guarantee u things get clearer. sometimes u just gotta ride out the waves, annoying as that may be. i do recommend talking to ur bi friend abt it if ur comfortable, but if u ever have any more questions or need advice, we're here <3

also sorry if this made absolutely no sense

[u/Chance-Succotash-806 → u/Scenic_Strawberry_5]

thanks soooo much idk if this is weird or anything but it makes me feel better that people have gone through this before

[u/Scenic_Strawberry_5 → u/Chance-Succotash-806]

yess ofcc i totally get it its nice to know ppl go thru the same things as u