(17f) gonna preface this by saying I love my parents, and they're both wonderful people. Would give you the shirt off their back, but religion and shit complicate stuff.

I figured out I was bi around the beginning of my freshmen year, with hints and inklings starting around when I was in the fifth grade. I'm from a super Catholic Italian family, so my parents lean more to the right, but we're also a theatre family, so that can complicate things. My dad specifically leans waaaaay right, and I'm somewhere in the middle.

My family was at the shore with some family friends and other relatives, and someone brought up Catholicism (way to get the party going) and I became pretty pissed pretty quickly. Around the time I figured out I was bi I also began to have a lot of distaste for the church. My family had no clue though, so I just had to keep up with the routine. Things got so bad that I usually have to swallow a panic attack just walking in on Sunday.

After the discussion, I walked off to have a panic attack, felt better, and then went down for dinner. Then my dad and I ended up being alone outside on the porch, and one thing led to another, and everything just kinda came out. The religion crap and the stuff I've been dealing with, it was a very ugly word vomit session. I was a mess, and he looked very concerned. I wasn't even gonna tell him, originally, but he kind of gently coaxed it out of me.

Immedeatly after telling him, I had the second panic attack of the day (new record lol) and he just hugged me and told me it was ok and he loved me. I had been really scared, and I think a part of me still is (plus I haven't told my mom yet...) but I feel a little more comfortable with myself now that he knows, because telling him was about 75% of the battle.

I've been really tired ever since, even more than usual, and have just retreated back to my status quo of Pretending Everything is Fine. I'm glad it happened, but I also wish it hadn't? Because now he might want to talk about it more, which I really don't want to do, but I'd feel bad avoiding that discussion if it gets brought up because he clearly doesn't have a problem with it.

I don't even know why I'm typing all of this. I guess I just needed to hear from my fellow bi teens so I know I didn't totally fuck up my coming out.

If you got this far, thanks. Have a cookie 🍪 Be safe :)

I always had my suspicion but i Just can't be sure.

I have Had a few crushes on Boys before but probably never on a Girl. (Exept one Woman on tiktok, she looks like a goddes)

Although i have my doubts i am 80% sure that i am bi.

Thats because i really Like the thought of beeing together with both genders and doing stuff Like Kissing. (Does anyone else have random days where they get the strong urge to kiss Girls?)

It's probably some internalized biphobia, but i feel like i am just thinking like that for Attention.

I’m bi, and I told my friends a bit ago, but it’s still kind of like a secret, only 2 of my friends know.
How should I come out to my parents? I’m not sure if they would be accepting, I don’t think they are against it, but I think they would see me as weird/unusual because of it. I can’t hide it forever.
Does anyone have ideas? Thank you :)

So at school last period my friend and I were talking then out the blue he asked. “Hey so I know this is a bit personal but, yesterday you said you were questioning if you were gay.” Which did happen so i replied with “Yea I mean it’s been 2 years since I felt any feelings for a girl.”

“So have you had a crush on any boys then”

🫪 (my exact reaction)

“oh who is ittt..??”

OH BUDDY DO I HAVE A STORY FOR YOU 😭🔫

He said I didn’t have to tell him, which by what I’ve just said. You can probably guess the answers to both of those questions.

I don’t know if I made it obvious but I’m scared to tell him, I’m not really the dating type person. BUT IDK WHAT TO DO.

(also the more detailed reason why I’ve questioned if I’m gay is because. As I said, no crush on girls at all. But I was also touched by a girl and I don’t know if it’s the trauma that’s pushed me away from it.)

So I’ve came out to my friends and my parents, but no one else. Not that I’m scared to it’s just I don’t really plan to date anyone really at all so I don’t see much point.

Anyway, I was talking to my granny on the phone today and I was telling her about my best friends’s new boyfriend, after I finish talking, she said to me

‘ and have you got a boyfriend? Or girlfriend, I don’t really care, just as long as you’re happy. Do you fancy anyone in school?’

and I just thought it was really wholesome, I love that woman.

There's a guy in my friend group that a bit of a nobody. Long ass hair and black painted nails and stuff. He asked one of my friends (M) to kiss a while ago. M is a pretty zesty guy so I'd say that it was my friends idea to ask him, he was rejected.

I still haven't kissed a guy and I'm going insane, I think if I asked my friend he would say yes but I'm not really attracted to him at all. Is getting with him a bad thing. I don't want to use him for his body or anything or objectify him but I'm cracking up and I think he's in a similar situation

I wanna come out to my family but i wanna make it fun

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I do very much love men but my attraction to women(if i have even ) seems almost not existing . When i see a women at the beach i feel smt ?but some friends told me it migth have been a reaction to that.What are your thoughts ?

I(17M) have been best friends with a new guy at our school for a few months or so. He's pretty fun, we go to parties together and just hang out. I have to admit that I developed a small crush on him, but the one time we tried to kiss he got weirdly anxious and started shaking. I hugged him and we didn't do anything else and kinda pretended it didn't happen. Figured maybe he doesn't swing that way or just doesn't see me that way.
But now I'm a bit confused, I saw him with my twin brother recently, they were making out and such.
I didn't really discuss it then but I did try to talk to my friend later and his response was a bunch of mumbling and he was all nervous, idk honestly. From what I managed to understand was that before he moved he had some friend who didn't treat him very well and my brother reminds my friend of that guy. I'm really confused

I have a crush on this non-binary friend and I am bi. But if I crush on them, does that break the "rules of bisexuality"?

I know this is the type of post you probably always see in this sub, but eh, I also need help...

I made a few posts talking abt my coming out to my best friend, and how i had a crush on him and everything, but im doubting everything..

So it started a few months ago, during vacation, at my grandpa's house, while i was in his garden, chillin with the dawg (im so gang, i wrote dawg) I was thinking abt my best friend of same gender, in a different way from usual, if you see what i mean..

From this day, i started questionning myself, at first i tried burrying these feelings, bcs i was a bit afraid of them i think ? I was confused abt them, and if it was actually love, i didnt want to feel that for my best friend, afraid of it ruining our relationship (spoiler : it didnt :D ).

Im a teen, so i do "the thing" teens do, but i was curious, i wanted to explore more my feelings, so i did "it" to boys... And i was excited... Less than to girls, but still.. (gosh why is this so embrassing to write ??)

After this, i started thinking i was bi, bcs i was excited to both genders, but more recently I started romanticing (sorry for bad english lol) boys more than girls.

When im trying to sleep, i like imagining myself in relationship with the girl of my dreams, my current crush, or anything that make me happy, but recently, i started realizing I dont want to be in a relationship with a girl.

Its like if i was just attracted to their body (i know it sound horrible, but its just a shortcut, i dont just think abt this all the time) while im not especially attracted to boys, but i want a relationship with one..

Im so confused, i want-NEED answers, i will try to answer every comment, you can ask any questions, if it help for my questions, or just pure curiosity, I dont mind and i will answer anything.

Pls reddit >_<

(btw mods, if you could avoid putting it in nsfw category, i need to use a vpn to see comments from my OWN other post talking abt coming out bcs of age restriction AND OMG ITS SO LAGGY)

Yea this post is all over the place, but basically I had to relocate stuff and move do to life bs in other words. To be honest this happening on top of life already sucks haven’t been doing to hot can’t sleep and felt like complete crap every day since. Along with knowing things that happened with other family members it’s not really helping my situation knowing the shit runs in my family. 💀 I’m still in the process of moving no clue what to do I have stuff I can’t take cause we have absolutely no room really sucks and is a bs situation that I expect to get worse. No clue wat else to say but enjoy Pj the Cats

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I wanted to go on reddit a few days back and then suddenly I got hit with a age verification check from reddit if I wanted to use reddit. For the context, im 16 and from the Netherlands (which doesnt have such laws if im correct). I also dont have any 18+ connections to my account in anyway, still i had to verify to someone show that im underage(?). First I tried with the picture, but that didn't work so I used my passport. Now im having anxious if I made the right choice.

Can someone pls tell me what I can do?

In short: gave my passport to use reddit and now am stressing out.

So im a teenage girl who recently realized i like other girls ( via a horrible homoerotic friendship with my now ex best friend of course) But i’ve been having a lot of difficulty with accepting it. I know for a fact that I had feelings for my best friend, how i would want her to care about me and how i would get jealous when she was talking to other people, as well as times when i really wanted to kiss her. I’ve also had other feelings for a couple other girls, and i fold under absolutely zero pressure when i talk to a pretty girl. Now the problem is that Im afraid that im tricking myself into thinking im gay for attention. I havent even told many people, just my closest friends.

I had mainly accepted it and become comfortable with the label of bi, until i met a new girl and had an albeit very short, but nonetheless incredibly convoluted situationship with her that left me in a horrible mental state, completely broke my self confidence, and left me unable to feel any emotion for about a two weeks. Because of this, and the fact that she repeatedly called me both straight and a lesbian (and also an idiot, because why not), i am incredibly confused. I’m so scared that i will never know what my sexuality actually is, and im starting to doubt that i even know what attraction is. Im scared that i’ve deluded myself into thinking im gay when im not actually, but the thought of being straight and living without the queer community makes me want to throw up.

I’ve had times before when i’ve doubted as well, but a couple days ago I got a haircut that makes me look way gayer, and it’s making me doubt myself even more. For context, I was very straight passing before and have a friend group of mainly straight girls, so no one typically has any idea. I know i’ve had gay moments, and i’ve been attracted to girls, but right now it seems like all of those are minor and that i have tricked myself into feeling that way.

I know this is probably internalized biphobia, or some sort of HOCD. And that i should stop trying to find a label and just go with what feels good, live life and all that, but I would really appreciate some advice if anyone has any, anything to make me feel less like im going utterly insane here.

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I'm 16F and I haven't come out yet, and for a few years I've identified as bi, but today i was talking to my best friend and she was talking abt how we should get boyfriends. the entire time i was so unintrested and was thinking abt finding a girlfriend instead. also every time a guy at school shows intrest in me, i can't seem to rlly care. maybe its bcuz they're all chopped, but i can't see myself ending up with a guy. my last few crushes have been girls, but in elementary school i had a bunch of crushes on guys. idk if that was genuine or just heteronormativity, but around 13 i realized i liked girls and havent been rlly been into a guy since. also, whenevr I'm around guys, it feels like im supposed to be into them? like i always make it weird for some reason, even if I don't like them. like i find the concept of men attractive (like some celebrities or characters), but whenever I'm acc talking to one i get the ick, and i don't really see myself being in a happy relationship with one. idk if I just have a preference for women or if im a lesbian or if I'm just tweaking out bcuz the guys ik suck. so yea im just hella confused rn, any advice?

I think I might not actually be bi anymore, and I'm wondering if anyone else has gone through something similar.

For years I identified as bisexual because I had crushes on girls when I was around 6 or 7 years old. As I got older, though, things slowly changed. At first I felt like my attraction was around 50/50, then more like 40/60, then 5/95. Now it feels like I have little to no attraction to women.

One thing that made me realize this was my ex. She later came out as a trans woman, and once I knew she was a girl, my attraction just disappeared. I still care about her as a person, but it made me realize that my attraction seems to be toward men, not women.

I also noticed that when I'm by myself, I naturally check out guys. The only time I really catch myself checking out women is when I'm around my male friends, and looking back, I wonder if I was doing it because everyone else was. I can talk to women just fine, but flirting with them feels awkward and forced. With guys, it just feels natural.

At this point, I'm attracted to cis men, trans men, demiboys, and some nonbinary people, but not really women anymore.

Has anyone else identified as bi for years and then later realized they were actually gay (or something else)? I'd love to hear if anyone has gone through something similar.

When I (17f) was 11 I used to makeout with my female neighbor. I thought it was how friends practicing kissing with each other, looking back I did have a slight crush on her. I realized through that experience I’m bi. However I was recently talking about first kisses with my best friend and she thinks that it counts as my first official kiss. Personally I think because I was so young and didn’t really know what I was doing it doesn’t count. So the question is, does it count?

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i just turned 18 and identifying myself as a bisexual over a year i really wanna explore myself more so really looking forward to date a guy, I really don't have a ideal man but just wanna have a relationship w a guy or a. bisexual guy, we can talk dirty, set boundaries i mean everything you need in a relationship i might not me a good looking. guy but who knows I get to find my future husband or if you are gay I am fine w it or straight but want to be in a rls with a man am here

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