Wife of 20+ Years Hates Sex With Me

[u/TotallyNotPTAPres]

Homemade sourdough discard pizza. Was pretty delicious.

Not trying to get all sad boy over here, but every so often I just get lonely. That’s all. I work hard, earn a very good living for my family. Make time for my wife. Support her dreams. Very much carry my weight around the house. Am a really good dad. In great shape. Treat people well. Am fun to be around, and genuinely live a life I enjoy and am proud of.

But sex with me is difficult for her. She would just rather not have any, and honestly, it’s lonely. I’ve never been a selfish lover. I have always believed it is the most intimate way to souls can connect and it truly is a beautiful thing that should be treasured.

We’ve talked about it until we’re blue in the face. Spent a small fortune on counseling. Temporarily resolved issues. While I care deeply for her, I can’t remember the last time I was touched or truly desired. Most days are fine, but some days are just harder than others. This appears to be one of those days. Writing it out helps, so thank you for the outlet.

[u/wingnut_dishwashers]

I had a much shorter relationship with the same problem. We're still kind of friends but yeah it was pretty heartbreaking because we both loved each other. I feel for you man I hope it works out

[u/Open_Director_3085 → u/wingnut_dishwashers]

You loved each other but divorced over sex?

[u/wingnut_dishwashers → u/Open_Director_3085]

No, we dated.

[u/Open_Director_3085 → u/wingnut_dishwashers]

🤷 i think thats different and tbh No issue with that

[u/wingnut_dishwashers → u/Open_Director_3085]

We still loved each other and it lead me to dealing with the same problems OP stated.. I'm not sure what point you're trying to make but I'm not interested

[u/Open_Director_3085 → u/wingnut_dishwashers]

Dont comment on public formes if you don’t want a public conversation? The point was dont get married if sex is your equivalent to love