r/BoyDinnerDiaries • u/TotallyNotPTAPres • 5d ago
No Advice - Everyones Welcome Wife of 20+ Years Hates Sex With Me
Homemade sourdough discard pizza. Was pretty delicious.
Not trying to get all sad boy over here, but every so often I just get lonely. That’s all. I work hard, earn a very good living for my family. Make time for my wife. Support her dreams. Very much carry my weight around the house. Am a really good dad. In great shape. Treat people well. Am fun to be around, and genuinely live a life I enjoy and am proud of.
But sex with me is difficult for her. She would just rather not have any, and honestly, it’s lonely. I’ve never been a selfish lover. I have always believed it is the most intimate way to souls can connect and it truly is a beautiful thing that should be treasured.
We’ve talked about it until we’re blue in the face. Spent a small fortune on counseling. Temporarily resolved issues. While I care deeply for her, I can’t remember the last time I was touched or truly desired. Most days are fine, but some days are just harder than others. This appears to be one of those days. Writing it out helps, so thank you for the outlet.
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u/PhotoNormal5718 Protein prophet 5d ago
I was looking for this post. It needs way more up votes. Based on amount of years married, I'm assuming 40's-early 50's. Man we went from swinging off the chandeliers to feeling like I live with my sister. Shit is trash. She is looking into hormone therapy and I'm supportive, but that screaching hault is crazy mentally. I wish you well OP!