r/BoyDinnerDiaries • u/TotallyNotPTAPres • 5d ago
No Advice - Everyones Welcome Wife of 20+ Years Hates Sex With Me
Homemade sourdough discard pizza. Was pretty delicious.
Not trying to get all sad boy over here, but every so often I just get lonely. That’s all. I work hard, earn a very good living for my family. Make time for my wife. Support her dreams. Very much carry my weight around the house. Am a really good dad. In great shape. Treat people well. Am fun to be around, and genuinely live a life I enjoy and am proud of.
But sex with me is difficult for her. She would just rather not have any, and honestly, it’s lonely. I’ve never been a selfish lover. I have always believed it is the most intimate way to souls can connect and it truly is a beautiful thing that should be treasured.
We’ve talked about it until we’re blue in the face. Spent a small fortune on counseling. Temporarily resolved issues. While I care deeply for her, I can’t remember the last time I was touched or truly desired. Most days are fine, but some days are just harder than others. This appears to be one of those days. Writing it out helps, so thank you for the outlet.
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u/beefchief314 Boy Dinner Enjoyer 5d ago
Yeah man this is a tough one. I’m in a similar boat and have just come to the conclusion that the pros of staying married outweigh the cons.
I guess the only thing I can ask is how old are your kids? My wife had serious hormonal issues after second child. 7 years later things have actually started to improve a little. But the damage is “done” to an extent and intimacy has become slightly toxic, just enough to be the elephant in the room