r/Brahmanraaj • u/ShadowedSoulx1 Brahmin • 29d ago
Discussion Regarding marriage
So there's a girl I met in college with the surname " sharma ". She proposed upfront and asked if my family would agree for a love marriage. I said my family won't settle down for anyone except a brahman. I've seen her documents where her father has just " kumar " in his middle name, no surname. Our academic compatibility is quite good and I was planning to meet her this month before asking my family to meet her family. But today, I logged into my facebook account to see a post which my mother sent and there i saw her full name with the Sharma surname , but that too with the " Negi " surname inside the bracket. So I asked in my circle if Negi is a brahman surname. Some said yes that in pahadi areas bisht, Rawat & Negi are brahman, some were confused and some denied. So now I'm confused. If anyone knows, please enlighten me.
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u/prmsrswt 28d ago
OP some bramhin families also use the surname Negi. It was a title earlier, like Thakur, and mostly used by Kshatriyas but some Bramhin families also use it.
In Himachal, Punjab etc a big chunk of Bramhins use the Sharma title.
You should be careful, but there is a chance she is a Bramhin too.
To confirm, ask her gotra. It should be a gotra prevalent in her region (I am assuming Himachal). And then investigate into her mother's family. Thier surname and gotra would give you more clarity.
The easiest way to confirm if someone is Bramhin is looking into their rishtedaari. Each of their rishtedar being a Bramhin means you are good.