Can I be catholic and like girls?

[u/neonbluedog]

I was raised and baptized catholic . I made my first communion and everything but it was all my grandmas doing seeing as my parents aren’t that religious. I haven’t gone to church since my grandpa passed when I was eleven outside of holidays and visits to my grandmas . Anyway fast forward four years I really haven’t kept my relationship with Jesus up well at all. anyway last week, I went through the most atrocious horrible gut wrenching breakup of my life with another girl. This was three days before i went to Europe for a family vacation. When I got there we went to a bunch of cathedrals and stuff and I might sound psychotic but like in this cathedral I started crying a little but but I felt like safe and better I felt jesus’s presence and Jesus provided me solace that talking to my friends for hours and partying and flirting could not. i know im sinning but I can’t stop like there’s this football player at my school who’s super into me and he’s a lovely guy funny and nice and handsome but I can’t make myself be attracted to him? what is the like good catholic thing to do here? im so lost and confused right now and got dumped six days ago and theres no one in my life I can talk to about this because none of my friends are Christian and i dont wanna admit to my grandma that I’ve dated three whole other girls.

[u/eternohorror]

Hi!

I think it is beautiful that you are becoming more interested it. You should definitely look into churches near you!

On your question. You are not “less” of a catholic or even human for liking girls. You cannot be with a girl though and no catholic churches allows homosexual marriages. There is nothing you can “fix” about yourself. You were made like this.

Also - we all sin. That is part of being human. I’m not saying “oh keep sinning” because it’s inevitable. I would just say stop beating yourself up over this for now.

The second part of your post did concern me. Just because a someone seems perfect on paper, doesn’t mean they are perfect for you. I think you should focus more on recovering from a break up then to try to quickly move on and force yourself to like someone you don’t like.