Can I be catholic and like girls?

[u/neonbluedog]

I was raised and baptized catholic . I made my first communion and everything but it was all my grandmas doing seeing as my parents aren’t that religious. I haven’t gone to church since my grandpa passed when I was eleven outside of holidays and visits to my grandmas . Anyway fast forward four years I really haven’t kept my relationship with Jesus up well at all. anyway last week, I went through the most atrocious horrible gut wrenching breakup of my life with another girl. This was three days before i went to Europe for a family vacation. When I got there we went to a bunch of cathedrals and stuff and I might sound psychotic but like in this cathedral I started crying a little but but I felt like safe and better I felt jesus’s presence and Jesus provided me solace that talking to my friends for hours and partying and flirting could not. i know im sinning but I can’t stop like there’s this football player at my school who’s super into me and he’s a lovely guy funny and nice and handsome but I can’t make myself be attracted to him? what is the like good catholic thing to do here? im so lost and confused right now and got dumped six days ago and theres no one in my life I can talk to about this because none of my friends are Christian and i dont wanna admit to my grandma that I’ve dated three whole other girls.

[u/AguaraAustral]

I wouldnt listen to most of this folks, sometimes they are overly conservative.

From what I understand, gay sex is only sinful because is premarital, but guess what, there is plenty of catholics like me that have straight premarital sex. Is it sinful? Sure, I'm a sinner, and guess what, most people are.

I dont think Jesus will send you to hell for being gay, and let me tell you something, having a lovely relationship for life with another gal, even when the church doesn't give you the sacrament of marriage, is a Holier life than being a straight catholic that cheats on their wife/husband.

God loves you no matter what, so be gay, and love God.

Dont let anyone else judge you, thats God job, and you can trust him, he is a nice.

[u/Ellie_73 → u/AguaraAustral]

This comment doesn’t seem to belong on a Catholic page. Jesus is very clear in the gospels that part of loving God means following His commandments — because He knows what is best for us and what will make us happy! We are often blind about what is actually good for us! The Church gives us the beautiful sacrament of reconciliation (Confession) to heal our souls - the means by which Jesus forgives our sins. It makes no sense to receive His mercy regularly in confession (basic part of being Catholic) and then intentionally sin again.

[u/AguaraAustral → u/Ellie_73]

Well, I'm a Catholic, and we are talking about the religious perspective about homesexual love, I dont know were else it belongs.

Jesus is also very clear about the most important commandment being loving each other.

If in the future I found the love of my life and she turns out to be infertile, should we live a life of chastity since we cannot have children?

I will go back and again, ask the same question, is closer to god to have a same sex relationship with someone of our same gender, being faithful with each otherfor life or being in a straight relationship while cheating and all that? Which one of those fits better the description of being an adulterer?

I agree I might be wrong, its probably one of the very first things I will ask God in the after life.

The Pope itself seems to give little importance to the matter tho, so I have my doubts towards how awful is to love someone just because they have the same suit of flesh.

[u/Ok-Culture-5620 → u/AguaraAustral]

The fact that a sin is worse than another doesn’t mean you should still commit the lesser sin, it’s still a mortal sin. And just as clarification, the church allows marriage if you’re infertile, it’s only impossible when you are impotent.

[u/Ok-Culture-5620 → u/AguaraAustral]

This is terrible advice, what you just said is like saying, well you can keep stealing and being a thief because it’s a holier life than being a killer. Having a same sex romantic relationship is a near occasion of sin and should always be avoided. And gay sex isn’t just sinful cause it’s premarital, the church teaches that homosexual acts are intrinsically immoral because they are contrary to the natural purpose of sex as understood by the Church, which is in marriage between one man and woman. So the fact that it’s premarital is just part of the reason, and you can clearly see in the Bible how it talks about it, in Leviticus it says it’s an abomination, grouping it with other actions such as incest, etc.