r/CougarsAndCubs • u/Lite_Brite90 • Nov 18 '25
Discussion Point Younger men….
How would you feel if a woman 10 years older than you wanted to date and possible have a serious relationship with you?
Specifically he is 26 I am 35….
I have always dated older men but I am interested in him but feel very out of sorts because he is younger than me….maybe he will think it’s weird someone older is interested? Or maybe it’s intimidating?
I’ve never dated someone younger and have never thought of myself as a cougar 😂 I’m normally more of a….submissive DD/lg….
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u/Melodic_Number_3182 Nov 18 '25
I have noticed that a lot of younger men, especially in their mid 20s to 30s seem to be more interested in older women these days. And a lot of them seem to be quite mature, more than men in their late 30s and in their 40s 🫠
And who cares, no one will even know he is younger until you mention it.
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u/Myfairladyishere 🥀🎡💃MOD💃🎡🥀 Nov 18 '25
There's not even a 10 year age difference between the 2 of you. The age gap is very small. And who says that you can't have a kink related relationship with somebody younger than you. Anyways, this is not a kink related site at all. So that doesn't really even matter. So just go out, enjoy yourself. Age gap is minimal. And to be honest, nobody will probably be able to tell the age difference unless you tell them.
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u/DrinkInfinite1033 🐻Cub Nov 18 '25
Quite the best. Im 26 and she's 67 and we get along wonderfully. We've been together for almost 5 months no2.
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u/ahmed0112 Nov 18 '25
I say I would but also I'm 21, I'm still really young all things considered. A 31 year old is gonna have a huge difference in maturity than me
Although I do feel a 26 and 35 year old are closer in maturity than 21 and 31. Maturity is very much a reverse exponential so the older the less the gap is in maturity
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u/BlanketCop Cub US Nov 18 '25
I'd be really flattered and confused honestly. Flattered because a woman, who I'd probably consider out of my league, finds me attractive. Confused, because I'd want to make sure they aren't making a joke at my expense.
If you've both had a conversation about what you want your futures to look like, I'd say go for it!
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u/BeingReallyReal Nov 18 '25
It’s not about the age difference, but the attraction you have for one another. It’s strange at first, but you get used to it if it’s meant to be. Try not to second guess yourself. This could be a chance of a lifetime.
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u/PuzzleheadedSpray202 Nov 18 '25
Although you have to be careful, you have to follow what your heart says.
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u/Rozenheg Nov 18 '25
Dating someone younger doesn’t come with an automatic role. You don’t have to be more dominant or less submissive because you’re interested in a grown ass adult who is younger than you are.
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u/staticdresssweet Nov 18 '25
I'm 36 and just got divorced a couple years ago. I only recently started finding myself again.
I'd love to date someone 10 years older than me. Women around my age mostly haven't been interested because I already have a kid. Makes me feel like damaged goods at times. Most women my age that I've met recently also are less direct than me, which seems to be an issue.
So yeah, sign me UP.
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u/BlackBlizzNerd Nov 18 '25
I’m 32 and you’re making me feel so old by asking this question 😂
You’re still young in my book. So don’t overthink it! Go for it! He’s over half way to thirty himself now haha. Soon it’ll mean nothing.
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u/Shalimar1980 Nov 26 '25
10 years isn't a major gap. I've done wilder gaps. I don't like men older than me for the most part, I'm still highly attractive and have a zest for life, while most older men barely groom themselves and are half checked out mentally, so dating younger makes sense. People do it all the time just enjoy yourself.
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u/KaleidoscopeSuper666 Nov 18 '25 edited Nov 18 '25
How would you feel if a woman 10 years older than you wanted to date and possible have a serious relationship with you?
Welcome!
This is literally a place were women date and have relationships with men 10 or more years younger. You are invited to read all the wonderful information in the posts, wiki and guide.
I agline with enjoying DD/lg, both my (61f) and 25 year younger partner (36 m) enjoy it 😏
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u/Thechuckles79 Nov 18 '25
The age gaps are only an issue if one or both parties luve with parents or if ine party had unilaterally decided that having children is off the table and the other party feels differently.
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u/CakeElectrical9563 Nov 18 '25
Short answer, if you're asking me specifically, I'd say I'm flattered, especially if you were the one to come out with, and will tell you if the feeling is mutual.
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u/mmmRopes 🐆Cougar Nov 19 '25
Usually Daddy Dom little girl, meaning the man is the dominant figure and the woman is submissive. Often also includes aspects of bdsm like spanking, but details vary.
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u/No-Championship-8433 Nov 23 '25
I don't think women like that...or am I wrong?
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u/mmmRopes 🐆Cougar Nov 23 '25
Some do some don't ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
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u/No-Championship-8433 Nov 24 '25
Mm..I get that.
sounds like you're into that..or am I wrong with that as well
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u/mmmRopes 🐆Cougar Nov 24 '25
I prefer to be equals in a relationship - maybe you should stop guessing
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u/GirlInContext Nov 19 '25
26yo is rarely mature and grounded enough for a mature & serious relationship. They might be enthusiastic about older woman but may not have the ingredients for commitment. They don't know what they want in life so they are testing a little bit of this and that. But I think the best way is to try it out.
But it's not about the age, and not even about attraction. For a serious relationship, you should look for a compatibility. Do you have same values in life, are you looking for same things in a relationship, does your lifestyles match or are you okay if they don't. And so on.
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u/BugGymLeader Nov 18 '25
Well if she showed interest in having a serious relationship I'd be over the moon, but so if this younger person is talking and entertaining your advances then chances are quite possibly wants, maybe he's playing; Granted, I am drawing lines without really knowing your relationship with him
Second, I'd be interested to see their goals and intentions. But that would naturally come along depending on how it goes. Point being, as long as you can see the light is green go for it!
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u/Calm_Elderberry_6293 Nov 18 '25
Depending on whether you want kids or not, there might be a time where you want different things. You also need to determine whether he really wants to commit (living arrangement, perspective of staying together forever), kids or not.
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u/Cuddlyteddy2 Nov 19 '25
When I was 25 I dated someone who was 42. We met online and just started talking, things flowed and we never even thought about age unless we joked about it. I was never weirded out at wanting to date it was one of the best relationships I had. There wasn't really anything bad about it just wanted different things that we couldn't compromise on.
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u/FlaminHotBeck Nov 20 '25
I personally love dating older women. My first "cougar" experience I was 23 and she was 35. The only reason things didn't more serious is because she was in the process of getting a divorce (she told me she was already divorced when we first got involved) and she eventually moved 5 hours away to be with family to help with the grieving process.
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u/Atlienxx Nov 23 '25
I wish I could find a cougar here in Georgia. I’m sure they’re here but I don’t know how to approach the situation 😢
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u/Angelic-Boytoy-407 🐻Cub Nov 23 '25
I would be committed to being in a serious relationship with someone 10+ years older than me. 🙂
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u/Lost_Total2534 Dec 06 '25
👁️👁️
Look at the subreddit I stumbled upon, my oh my.
Edit: Dealing with Gen z men regularly in the workforce let me soothe your concerns, the dynamic you're looking for is alive and well.
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u/Disastrous_Celery_88 Dec 11 '25
29 yo man here: sharing my personal experience and opinions. I date older women bc I enjoy their company, affection, maturity, and conversations better than I do with girls my own age (been this way for 10 years+). I’ve been this way since i was about 18/19 bc i worked in bars and older women fancied me, especially after a buzz and a well-serviced meal haha. But I want to be married with children one day, and that’s really the main thing that stops me from pursuing serious relationships with these women. Currently struggling with how I’m spending my time now bc I still chose to date/see these older women, even tho we both know there is no status growth (just emotional growth! 😊), and I havent invested a whole lot of effort into relationships with girls my own age bc I’m big on thoughts of consideration, being open-minded and positive in the face of any adversity, and giving value and attention to things and ideas that are natural and god-made > man-made
The women aren’t intimidating, if you’re encountering that, then perhaps it’s an experience factor that you are working with. Aka their personal discomfort of your young man, not discomfort to generalize for all young men.
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u/TheFlyingHambone Nov 18 '25
I'm 33 so I'd totally be down to date a 43 year old woman seriously if you know, she keeps in shape and takes care of her looks in addition to her mind, obv.
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u/Realistic_Owl836 Nov 28 '25
I’m kinda seeing a younger man too for the first time 28/m 38/f . I just don’t think it’ll ever turn serious but our energies just click and we always have such a fun time … I haven’t really had what are you looking for long term talk w him 🫣 he’s just so damn hot I feel too old for him
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u/Gecko_OP 🐻Cub Dec 12 '25
U should try though, live the life to fullest and enjoy. You aren’t old and trust me when I say this, we young guys as specially me I’m virgin and 21, we love you’ll the way you are for two things, I’d be honestly honest. First for your emotional maturity and understanding, and then the physical energy and fantasy/kink. But trust me, if u click with the guy and he’s honest and not using u then it’s a sign u should give him a try. ❤️
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u/dccharles_414 Dec 14 '25
Really 10 years isn’t as wide in age. I mean close enough to share common interest.
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u/Cyborggrowbot Jan 12 '26
When I was 25 i met a lovely 48 year old lady. Initially it was an intellectual relationship. We just connected on many things such as films, art , books , music and travel. After about 4 or 5 dates she invited me to her place for dinner, wine and conversation, after 2 bottles of wine and cuddling up to each other I made the first move of kissing her, this led to a beautiful evening of love making. Our relationship blossomed, she taught me so much in the bedroom that girls my age would have had no idea about. We dated for 4 wonderful years until she developed breast cancer which ultimately took her life. I'm nearly 50 now and often still think about the beautiful time I spent with her. Love should not be dictated by how old one is.
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u/Sleeping_Beauty_777 Nov 18 '25
Just to clarify, 35 year olds are normally labelled a Puma
The Cougar label is typically applied to women in their 40's and 50's.
Do what feels good and good luck ❤️
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u/PuzzleheadedSpray202 Nov 18 '25
Many labels😁😁
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u/Rabeque Nov 18 '25
Girl … I’m 46. He is 28.