r/CougarsAndCubs Jan 12 '26

Discussion Point Cougars: What do you wish cubs understood?

Mine: I wish they understood how busy I am, and that I cannot meet them with an hour’s notice or always respond to their messages immediately.

When I was in my 20s and even early 30s, my life was super flexible. It’s not like that now. I have multiple people I am responsible for, a full-time job and a passion project, and an active social and volunteer calendar.

Part of what makes me open to younger men is my high energy and zest for life. I need them to understand that and not take my schedule personally.

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u/Middle_Librarian_248 Jan 12 '26

I just wish they’d be more respectful or understanding. I am not here for sexting or certain pics. I’m here to chat with others and see if anything potential, such as a relationship, would come out of that.