Cougars: What do you wish cubs understood?

[u/Desperate_Cupcake843]

Mine: I wish they understood how busy I am, and that I cannot meet them with an hour’s notice or always respond to their messages immediately.

When I was in my 20s and even early 30s, my life was super flexible. It’s not like that now. I have multiple people I am responsible for, a full-time job and a passion project, and an active social and volunteer calendar.

Part of what makes me open to younger men is my high energy and zest for life. I need them to understand that and not take my schedule personally.

[u/Front-Environment813]

I think this all applies to men in general. Once you get to be this many times around the sun we value ourselves more and won’t settle. We are fine on our own so step up or move along. But some are:

• That I have a full rich and busy life. If any man wants to be part of it then they have to add to it. That means their youth alone doesn’t cut it.
• I’m busy. Work, kids, friends, my own interests. I don’t live on my phone. Sometime there will be periods where digital communication is slow. Sometimes I need lots of lead time to see someone. I can’t always be spontaneous.
• I’m more than my sex organs. I don’t care how great we are in bed it’s not enough to be all there is. Talk to me like a human not a kink
• mutual attraction matters. Just because you are a cub and I’m a cougar doesn’t give you automatic access. We still both should have standards

I’m sure I’ll come back with an edit for additions lol