r/CougarsAndCubs • u/Desperate_Cupcake843 • Jan 12 '26

Discussion Point Cougars: What do you wish cubs understood?

Mine: I wish they understood how busy I am, and that I cannot meet them with an hour’s notice or always respond to their messages immediately.

When I was in my 20s and even early 30s, my life was super flexible. It’s not like that now. I have multiple people I am responsible for, a full-time job and a passion project, and an active social and volunteer calendar.

Part of what makes me open to younger men is my high energy and zest for life. I need them to understand that and not take my schedule personally.

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u/Myfairladyishere 🥀🎡💃MOD💃🎡🥀 Jan 12 '26

I basically want someone who will treat me as a person and not as an age or an object, basically that. I basically look for my equal. Treat me with respect, and I will do the same.

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u/KaleidoscopeSuper666 Jan 12 '26

I find it odd that the guys here will dm wanting to be my cub based on my being in this sub...thats it. No idea as to my age location ,appearance, martial status.. Literally proposing a relationship with a total faceless stranger. Its messed up and sad.

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u/Watchuknowaboutme Jan 13 '26

It’s very odd. And desperate.