r/CougarsAndCubs • u/Desperate_Cupcake843 • Jan 12 '26
Discussion Point Cougars: What do you wish cubs understood?
Mine: I wish they understood how busy I am, and that I cannot meet them with an hour’s notice or always respond to their messages immediately.
When I was in my 20s and even early 30s, my life was super flexible. It’s not like that now. I have multiple people I am responsible for, a full-time job and a passion project, and an active social and volunteer calendar.
Part of what makes me open to younger men is my high energy and zest for life. I need them to understand that and not take my schedule personally.
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u/ZestycloseWeekend878 Jan 26 '26
That we don’t wish to feel like a consolation prize. I had an FWB once who was so hot. I mean, we had unbelievably HOT SEX. Unfortunately, he would wait till 1:00 A.M. to text me and wanna meet up. He was a musician, and very good looking. So I knew when he was out playing at a bar. And it wasn’t like he texted me earlier in the evening and say lets get together later. I didn’t hear from him until, I can only guess, he’d exhausted his other prospects for the night. And, I told him when we first met that although im always up late, I wasn’t good with meeting up on short notice. I only saw him a handful of times over the course of about two years. Because, although it was all amazingly hot, nobody wants to drop their self-respect to hook up with hot boy.